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Stephen Spapperi Obituary

Spapperi, Stephen A. 43, beloved husband of Coleen (nee Belousek), loving father of Alexandria, Stephen and Nicholas, devoted son of Joseph L. and Charlotte, proud brother of Cheryl (Ken) Boker, Joseph M. (Ida) and Daniel (Susan), uncle of many nieces and nephews, dear son-in-law of James (Alice) Belousek and Noreen Belousek, brother-in-law of Tina (Michael) Nesbitt, Joseph H. (Charlene), James (Carrie) and Sheila Belousek. Funeral Monday, 10 a.m. at The Oaks Funeral Home, 1201 E. Irving Park Road (at Prospect), Itasca. Interment Acacia Park Cemetery. Visitation Sunday, 3 to 8 p.m. In lieu of flowers, donations to Spapperi Family Fund Community Bank of Elmhurst, 330 W. Butterfield, Elmhurst, IL, 60126. 630-250-8588.

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Published by Chicago Sun-Times on Mar. 17, 2006.

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Coleen Spapperi

June 21, 2025

Our "baby" took 2nd at his Jujitsu Competition in Detroit.. he is determined, dedicated, disciplined.. I´m very proud of the young man he is and you would really be amazed.. your almost birthday twin is really a great human.. as are all 3 of our kids.

Coleen Spapperi

June 14, 2025

Happy Father´s Day in heaven to our angels. Dad & Steve.. you are both so missed. I wish you could be here with our family and Sophia and enjoying life. Steve thank you for our babies I´m sorry your "fatherhood" was taken so early and our kids didn´t have you l, that will always break my heart.. Dad stepped in and I´m so thankful for him and his support and his love to our kids and me. God gave us the biggest angel until August 17, 2019. I know you are both together with Nana Sesta and Christopher and all that have gone before you both. I love and miss you both dearly.. Keep being our angels and watch and protect us all .. Ti Amo Steve

Dave K

May 22, 2025

Thank you Colleen for keeping this page alive for so many years. I love checking in from time to time and seeing the updates on you and the family. Steve was a mentor and a friend, and I still apply lessons I learned from him 20+ years ago.

Whenever I paint a room, I think "put the paint up like I'm paying for it". We'd always be painting something at Cutting Hall, and that was his advice.

His commitment to buying a quality item once, rather than something cheap multiple times.

And our all-time favorite from summers at the amphitheater, "Hey bro, did you chow?", and then going to lunch at Kosta's in Palatine. I still say this on a weekly basis.

Steve left an indelible mark on me, and thank you for keeping his memorial active.

Coleen Spapperi

May 12, 2025

Our Principessa is 3 today! I cannot believe how time has flown. We took her to Disneyland and San Diego for her birthday! It was the best vacation and to travel and take her to see her favorite Minnie Mouse was an amazing vacation. You would love love love Sophia. I know you are smiling and Alex & Steve are great parents. Sophia Noreen has many angels above and is very loved..

Coleen Spapperi

May 11, 2025

It´s been 19 Mothers Days without you being here. Our kids have held me up and are my greatest loves. Thank you for our beautiful babies. We will miss you forever. Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

April 19, 2025

Our Principessa´s 3rd yr with the Easter Bunny.. I wish you could be "here" to enjoy our granddaughter.. Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

April 4, 2025

Alex & Steve April 2025

Coleen Spapperi

April 4, 2025

I wanted to say thank you Steve.. it took me a long time to "get it" your last 3 months on earth you taught me many things. Your grace knowing you were dying was something I didn´t understand at the time. You found peace, you loved and you forgave. I think we all as humans should do this daily. I thank you for the deep conversations, our children and your family. I would not have made it thru without all of those. I miss you always. Ti Amo..Col

Coleen Spapperi

March 15, 2025

It’s been 19 years since you asked me if I was going to be “OK” .. I can write a book on all that you have missed. We always will miss you, love you, celebrate you and speak your name. The reason that you should be here are endless. I know you are always watching and I feel your presence often. Ti Amo Steve Spapperi.. I will never forget you

It´s been almost 19 yrs.. our Principessa is growing like a weed and is incredibly smart and adorable

Coleen Spapperi

March 13, 2025

Our Principessa is almost 3..You would adore her . So many changes in the last 19 yrs. We will never forget you Papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

January 31, 2025

Never forget the people you love who have passed on. Love never dies.. it just changes form... We have angels

Happy Heavenly 92nd Dad & 62nd Steve I can write a book on the reasons you are both missed. I wish you both were here especially to meet Sophia .. Steve I have to laugh because you freaked when you turned 30.. I can only imagine how you would feel at 62 We miss you, it´s been almost 19 years since we have lost you and we always speak of you, love you and will never forget you

I know you are with your birthday twin, best father in law in the world, best grandfather to our children and one of my favorite humans, your father.. We miss you Dad.. I can write a book on you. My kids miss you.. you stepped in as a grandfather/ father figure for our kids when Steve passed and you LOVED US, you cared about us, I thank you for being the BEST Grandpa and father in law.

It hurts that you both are not on this planet to celebrate your day. But know we will always talk of you, love you, and never forget you.

Give Ricky Ray Ray a hug.. he is missed

Coleen Spapperi

January 27, 2025

Our “baby” is 24 today.. time has really flew. You would be amazed by our Nicholas, the crazy wild child is the most amazing soul. He is extremely dedicated at his work, Ju Jit Su ( Purple Belt) and his attitude. He is a good human, son, brother, uncle to Sophia, and boyfriend. It makes me sad that you missed out on our children’s milestones and their growling up. It’s been almost 19 years since you “left” for your eternal home and it hurts Happy 24th to our baby Nicky. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

December 27, 2024

Christmas 2024 in the books.. Xmas Eve is still "our holiday" Xmas Day has become Alex & Steven´s holiday. Sophia´s 3rd Christmas.. You & Dad are very missed as we march on like soldiers ( your term) 2025 is coming upon us and it´s so hard to believe you have been in your eternal home for almost 19 yrs. We will always keep your spirit "alive" Papa Steve .. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

December 3, 2024

I love getting FaceTime calls from Alexandria and she says Sophia wanted me to call Nana & I hear "Hi Nana" and see her beautiful face .. I wish you could be here to enjoy these moments ...

Coleen Spapperi

November 20, 2024

31 years ago we married in our Las Vegas chapel.. I never thought you would pass 12 yrs later.. it´s been almost 19 years since you went to your eternal home. We miss you always. Ti Amo my "forever husband"

Coleen Spapperi

November 7, 2024

Mommy & Sophia are twins.. I really wish you were here to meet Sophfifi I am told by many that she resembles you, like your daughter does. Miss you Steve

Coleen Spapperi

October 3, 2024

October 3, 1999 -25yrs ago our first son was born... Stephen Anthony remember he was supposed to be Nicholas ( the whole time) I believe the universe was working on that..Your first son is most definitely your "mini" in many many ways. He is very strong willed, will stand his ground for what he feels is right, soft hearted, a good son, good friend and a good brother. He is very much "the balance" when needed. Stevie is our late bloomer as I call him. You would be proud of your sons and I wish you could be here to celebrate his special day and all of their special days. Always miss you Steve especially on days like this.

Coleen Spapperi

September 8, 2024

Remember when you freaked out when you were turning 30, having a baby and getting married 31 years ago.. well I semi freaked about turning 60 on Friday..I´m thankful for seeing this age, I do not take it for granted, pray I can be here for many more years to come. I had a beautiful 60th with family and our sons who treated me like a Queen as they always do. We have good kids.. this year was different but I had a wonderful birthday. We miss you as always Steve. Ti Amo ... Col

Coleen Spapperi

August 17, 2024

It´s been 5 yrs since your Dad has passed, I know you and Nana Sesta were there to meet him. He is missed.. "The Glue of the family" left a hole in many hearts.. we miss you both and I know you are together forever ... we miss and love you both immensely.

Coleen Spapperi

August 15, 2024

Our son Stevie applied for 134 this week and our earth angel Jimmy C came in as an angel as always and your old company gave him a letter of recommendation.. he has to do his work as we know but he is motivated and excited! I cried a lot this week. I always pray and "speak to you" to keep our children safe and on a "good road" I am beyond grateful to Jimmy C, and your "people". It´s a tuff week knowing Dad passed 5 yrs ago and I know you and he and my Mom and my brother Joey are our angels. We miss you all and especially missing Dad and you this week. Keep watching over our "babies" . Ti Amo .. Col

Coleen Spapperi

June 16, 2024

Happy Father´s Day in heaven Steve. It´s been 18 Father´s Days without you. You and the kids missed out on many many milestones.. We will always miss you and your presence. We miss you and Dad a lot .. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

May 29, 2024

Our Principessa is enjoying the yard and her 4x4.. She is a swimmer like her Papa Steve and her mommy she loves swimming and the water and the outdoors. Sophia is a joy..

Coleen Spapperi

May 19, 2024

We celebrated your moms 90th Birthday today..it was a beautiful party with the family..I´ve been a "Spapperi" for 31 yrs and with the family for 35 yrs.. it was a beautiful family party with all of your cousins and siblings and grandchildren and Bella & Sophia.. it was a very special evening and you and your Dad are missed but we always remember you both with love.. We always have had the best family parties. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

May 11, 2024

Uncle Nicky & Sophia

Coleen Spapperi

May 11, 2024

Uncle Stevie & Sophia

Coleen Spapperi

May 11, 2024

Principessa Sophia is 2 ... I cannot believe how fast 2 yrs went from our 7lb 5oz baby to a toddler. She is a busy bee and very smart and feisty.. you would be in love with our granddaughter. She is a joy and I love her immensely.

Coleen Spapperi

April 21, 2024

Our Principessa is 3 weeks shy of 2 .. time has flown.. she is a busy smart little baby girl..

Coleen Spapperi

March 31, 2024

Our Easter Principessa

Coleen Spapperi

March 28, 2024

Our Principessa Sophia was not afraid of the Easter Bunny.. she is a happy baby girl.

Coleen Spapperi

March 15, 2024

18 yrs ago .. It was a Wednesday, little did we know it would be your last day on earth. Steve.. it´s been 18 yrs you are in heaven and 17 yrs we were together..
So many memories and milestones that you have missed with our kids, now our granddaughter. It´s been a ride...

You are missed.. I feel we were all "robbed" in a sense. I never thought with your "Big Presence" that you would pass so young and so quick .. you left a huge void in our lives. Your father was a blessing, he stepped up, he coached the boys in baseball til he was 78, he called almost daily to make sure we were OK and he is missed as well, we were blessed to have him until he left 4.5 yrs ago. I would have loved for you both to stay longer, God had other plans. So today like every "milestone" I will say I love you, we miss you, and I will make sure to always speak your name and you will always be Alex, Stevie & Nicky´s Father. Sophia knows about Papa Steve as well. Ti Amo Steve Spapperi....you are always loved and missed

And our beautiful Sophia is 22 months old. She is definitely "Spapperi" :)

Coleen Spapperi

February 25, 2024

Our Principessa is 21 months old.. Time flies and she is a busy bee! You would be having a grand time being a Papa

Coleen Spapperi

February 19, 2024

To say I´m proud of our daughter is an understatement.. as she starts her next career as a certified postpartum and birthing doula I´m so happy for her!! She has a natural calming bedside manner and she did her thing!!! Proud Mama day and I know you are smiling from heaven and I know you are the reason she chose the medical field.. the last 18 years have definitely helped her find her passion in the medical field. I know your Dad would be proud as well.

Coleen Spapperi

February 6, 2024

Our Daughter ... I´m so proud of her and her next "medical endeavor" she is a natural caregiver and has a very beautiful beside manner.. I know you would be beyond proud of your baby girl.. She is and always will be your "little girl" she is an amazing woman and mother. Her journey has not been easy she will always miss "her Daddy" ... we love you Steve

Coleen Spapperi

January 31, 2024

Happy 61st my handsome husband.. I will always love you

Coleen Spapperi

January 30, 2024

Never forget the people you love who have passed on. Love never dies.. it just changes form... We have angels

Happy Heavenly 91st Dad & 61st Steve; I can write a book on the reasons you are both missed. I wish you both were here especially in the last 20 months to meet Sophia .. If you were both here many many things would be different.. Steve I have to laugh because you freaked when you turned 30.. I can only imagine how you would feel at 61 ( Laughing very hard right now). I know mine and the kids lives would have been different.. I know you wanted to be here and be a father, husband, and a son. The last 18 years have been hard ( but we have made it with some lessons, bumps & bruises. But we are OK

I know you are with your birthday twin, best father in law in the world, best grandfather to our children and one of my favorite humans, your father.. We miss you Dad.. I can write a book on you. My kids miss you.. you stepped in as a grandfather/ father figure for our kids when Steve passed and you LOVED US, you cared about us, I thank you for being the BEST Man I have met in my 59 yrs, I miss your jokes, I miss your calls and still have voice mails telling me you were calling the state police cause I was not picking up, calling to talk to the kids, helping us for all the years you were here after Steve left us. You taught us many lessons and how important family is, you helped me be a better mother.

I believe God put you in our life for a reason and I feel blessed to be in your family.

It hurts that you both are not on this planet to celebrate your day. But know we will always talk of you, love you, and never forget you.

Give Ricky Ray Ray a hug.. he is missed

Coleen Spapperi

January 26, 2024

23 yrs ago 1/27/2001 our "baby" was born.. I got my Nicky.. your Dad wanted him to he born on 1/31 for the Triple Birthday with you and Dad but Nicholas Joseph wanted his own day. You would be very proud of your sons. Nicky would have especially shocked you. He is very dedicated at whatever he does, he is a hard worker, great friend to many, he is the "calm" of our 3 children. He is peaceful and loving. I´m very proud of our Nicky No No and I know you are too. He definitely has some of you in him. We miss you Steve and it makes me sad that you didn´t get to see your children grow up to be adults. Ti Amo.. Col

Coleen Spapperi

January 12, 2024

Our Principessa is 20 months old today! She is so smart, busy and a real character! You would be in love with our girl Papa Steve .. you are always missed

Coleen Spapperi

December 15, 2023

Our Principessa is 19 months old.. it´s been almost 18 years since you left us. Life has changed in many ways. You would love our Sophia she is an angel .. I believe you, my mom, your Dad and all of our angels have met her before she came .. Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

November 23, 2023

Thanksgiving Day 2023 ... We miss you always Papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

November 20, 2023

30 yrs ago Steve & I married in a chapel in Las Vegas .. Alex was 4 months old..
Steve was diagnosed with cancer 18 yrs ago December 13 and passed away 3 months later...that I wish I could have changed but God, & The Universe, had other plans..

We had a rocky start and we were definitely hard headed passionate people.. The Music Business was our life and we lived it and loved it

I miss him.. he and I had plans as most married people do, we had Alex , Stevie & Nicky and we wanted to raise our kids and give them a good life. Sadly I did that alone for the last almost 18 yrs and Steve missed out on mostly every major milestone in their lives ( which unless you have been thru it you will NEVER UNDERSTAND )

Steve will always be "my husband" in sickness and health, til death we do part are words that we take our vows with, but we don´t think that will happen til we are old and gray.

I miss him, I will always hurt for my kids cause they and him missed a life together. I have kept and will always keep his memory alive with my kids and my Sophia ( who he would adore) and our future grandchildren ..

Happy 30th Steve.. I feel your presence always, I thank you for our children and the life we had and for being my biggest Angel from the other side.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

November 12, 2023

Our Nicky is competing, training and very dedicated to his JuJitsu. You would be very proud of the men your sons have become. You have missed so much in 18 yrs but I do believe you are "here" Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

November 12, 2023

Our Principessa is 18 months old today... I cannot believe how time flies.. Miss you always Papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

October 31, 2023

Our Principessa was a Little Wolf for Halloween.. love her so mucj

Coleen Spapperi

October 16, 2023

Our Principessa is 17 months old... she is busy, smart, talkative and a pure joy. I love her so much and you would too Papa Steve. Your presence is always missed.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

October 2, 2023

Our first son is 24 ... even thou he was 6 when you passed he is very much a Spapperi. He is a good son , he is strong, intelligent, kind, truly loves Sophia and is very gentle with her as well as goofy. He is very much your son. I call him my late bloomer.. Ha.. I love him very much and you would be very proud of your son Stephen Anthony. He is a fine young man. Ti Amo, Steve.. these days are the hardest.

Coleen Spapperi

September 11, 2023

Our first Principessa is a great mama and partner and daughter.. she is a good woman who you would be very proud of...

Coleen Spapperi

September 10, 2023

Our Principessa is 16 months .. I adore her and you would too

Coleen Spapperi

August 31, 2023

Nana bought Sophia her first car.. much cheaper then it will be when she is 16..

Coleen Spapperi

August 18, 2023

Our "wild child" is very vocal and a really funny little character.. I always think of how you would be with our Sophia

Coleen Spapperi

August 13, 2023

Our grandchild is 15 months old! She is a joy! Sophia is the light of my life and I love being a Nana and I wish you were here to be a Papa. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

July 31, 2023

We celebrated Alexandria 30th Birthday on her birthday with a surprise party and she was surrounded by lots of love from her family and friends.. It was a beautiful celebration and she was very happy! Wishing you were here, I´m sure you would be having a blast with your kids and grandchild and great nieces and nephews. They would love Uncle Steve the jokester.. so many new babies in the family! You are missed

Coleen Spapperi

July 29, 2023

Our "baby girl" is 30! A milestone..I remember when you turned 30... you became a father, got married and turned 30... life evolves and time goes by so fast! Alexandria is an exceptional mother, partner, daughter, sister, and also still "rules" the roost. I am extremely proud of our daughter. I am blessed to call her daughter and she has been my ride or die since birth 30 years ago today. My "first baby" .. Her heart as she says will never be the same since she lost you. I truly wish you were here to experience our kids and their milestones. These are the days that are hardest for me and them. I know you, Dad, my mother and my brother Joey are watching from above. Ti Amo, Col

Coleen Spapperi

July 18, 2023

Our Principessa is 14 months and full of curiosity and excitement.. she is a happy happy baby

Coleen Spapperi

July 6, 2023

You would be very proud of our Principessa.. She is so smart and she rocks to Zeppelin! She loves music, and dances and rocks out..

Coleen Spapperi

June 18, 2023

Happy Father´s Day in heaven Steve.. We miss you and Dad very much.. I know you are both together watching us from above. Love you always.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

June 17, 2023

Our Principessa is 13 months old.. busy busy busy and I have nicknamed her Sophia NO NO.. she is Alex and Nicky rolled into one little human..You would love our little Spapperi Mini she is a ball of fun.. We miss you Steve

Coleen Spapperi

May 29, 2023

Sophia´s first swim with Daddy. I know this would make you happy to have another "fish" in our family ...

Coleen Spapperi

May 17, 2023

Nicky moved up a belt in JuJitSu and he back to competing.. He has a lot of drive and dedication. You would be VERY proud of our baby..

Coleen Spapperi

May 16, 2023

Sophia is 1

Coleen Spapperi

May 12, 2023

Sophia´s 1

Coleen Spapperi

May 12, 2023

Beautiful 1st Birthday for our Principesaa the family and friends who have been celebrating Sophia since day 1 came together and it was a beautiful celebration... You will always be missed as our family grows.. Ti Amo Papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

May 12, 2023

Our Principessa is 1 yr today . I can´t believe how fast this last year went. Sophia has brought so much love into our home and with our children. Alex and Steve are wonderful loving parents and our sons are truly loving hands on uncles. Baby girl is very very LOVED..I feel so happy to be a Nana.. we miss you Steve I´m sure you would be head over heals with our granddaughter.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

April 19, 2023

Sophia is 11 months old and waking... she also walks on her top toes .. definitely your grandchild Papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

April 12, 2023

Smiley Baby Girl

Coleen Spapperi

April 12, 2023

Our Sophia is 11 months old today.. she is very smart, busy, and a happy good baby. Being a Nana has been a blessing. You would love our Principessa, she is very loved and Alex is a GREAT Mama... We miss you papa Steve

Coleen Spapperi

April 9, 2023

Our Principessa´s First Easter ..

Coleen Spapperi

April 9, 2023

Sophia was having a nice Easter Dinner

Coleen Spapperi

March 30, 2023

Sophia was not scared of the Easter Bunny

Coleen Spapperi

March 30, 2023

Our little "punk rocker" Sophia is a busy, happy, loving baby. She is such a character she makes me smile and laugh daily. We miss you Steve..I really wish you could be here enjoying our family and our grandchild.. many bittersweet moments in the last 17 yrs.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

March 17, 2023

Happy St Patrick´s Day in Heaven from our little Italian/ Irish Sophia Noreen Papa Steve ..

Coleen Spapperi

March 15, 2023

17 yrs ago .. It was a Wednesday, little did we know it would be your last day on earth. Steve.. it´s been 17 yrs you are in heaven and 17 yrs we were together, 34 yrs ..So many memories and milestones that you have missed with our kids, now our granddaughter. It´s been a ride...

You are missed.. I feel we were all "robbed" in a sense. I never thought with your "Big Presence" that you would pass so young and so quick .. you left a huge void in our lives. Your father was a blessing, he stepped up, he coached the boys in baseball til he was 78, he called almost daily to make sure we were OK and he is missed as well, we were blessed to have him until he left 3.5 yrs ago. I would have loved for you both to stay longer, God had other plans. So today like every "milestone" I will say I love you, we miss you, and I will make sure to always speak your name and you will always be Alex, Stevie & Nicky´s Father. Sophia will know about Papa Steve as well. Ti Amo Steve Spapperi....you are always loved and missed

Coleen Spapperi

March 13, 2023

I´ve covered a lot of milestones in these past 17 yrs in this space. As I have said before I will write in here and never forget you ( I´m sure people may think it´s weird) for me it´s healing. It´s been a long 17 yrs, the 3 months from your diagnosis to your last day on earth was fast. I didn´t stop believing that you would not be here. I had faith, it´s a blur, and sooo many major memories. I know in the last few days of your life it was very hard I was trying to keep you going, I didn´t know the process. That was hard. On your last day here you asked me if I was going to be OK.. I said Yes, because I wanted you to lay down and rest.. I didn´t you meant "AM I GOING TO BE OK without you" that was heavy after I realized what you meant. I have been "OK" I had to be OK.. we had 3 kids, I didn´t want our children to be effected by being without a Dad. That really made me incredibly sad and guilty. I don´t like people who have not been thru that will "get it" and that´s OK.. it´s been our journey. I´ve been up and down and all around. I took Starsounds to the next level as you wanted me to, being a manager to artists is like being a Mom.. LOL. I changed careers at 50 and I am LOVING IT! I found love as you gave me permission to do. I have traveled with the kids and myself and been to some of the most beautiful places in the states. I love being a Nana. I look forward to the "next chapter" when the kids are out and I will be moving West and I cannot wait for that! Retirement isn´t in my vocabulary! I love working and being with people. Am I OK.. today I say yes. Thank you for the signs today... you have sent them to me since you left and today was no different. Here is a photo from one of my trips to Colorado.. it´s beautiful.. I miss you always Steve and you will always be part of my life, even if you are not on the earthly plane.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

March 12, 2023

10 months ago today was the 4th best day of my life... Our Principessa Sophia Noreen was born! I cannot believe how time has flown! She is a joy, she is smart! Very busy, almost walking by herself ( just about there) she is a character! You would adore her! She has brought a lot of happiness to my life. She has some cousins coming soon, Elouise, Bentley, & KLove..my family will have 6 great grandchildren by July! I can´t wait for Sophia to grow up with her cousins and have great friends like our kids did. We miss you Steve.. today also is the day my Grandma received her wings 15 yrs ago. She always loved you and til her dying day would tell me how "handsome you were" I hope you and all of our people are rejoicing in your heavenly kingdom.. Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

March 10, 2023

As I sit back and go thru all of the changes In EVERYTHING in the last 17 yrs I have to share your accomplishments. Music was your life and life is Music, I´m so proud that people still speak of you ( all of your music family) the list is endless, I hear of you weekly by your friends and artists you have worked with, you would be so humbled and grateful that you are thought of and spoke of by many. We all have many LOL Steve moments. Im blessed to have people like Kurt, Bart, Jim, Vandy, Matt, Mole, Vince, and so many who speak of you and share stories. You would LOVE social media and you would really love googling your name and seeing the sites and artists you worked with. I know you would be up on the latest and greatest technology and probably having that studio you wanted and doing your sessions and "chilling". Nicky is taking classes for Dj & production and I am so excited to see where he goes with this, he definitely has the skills. SteveHeyMisterSpapperi ... Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

March 8, 2023

In 1 week it will be 17 years since you left us. It feels like yesterday and a lifetime ago.

Our daughter become a mother almost 10 months ago, she is a GREAT Mama, attentive, loving, kind, nurturing and tuff. Sophia will be "raised properly" as Alexandria always says ( like she and her brothers were) I think of our 3 Alexandria has "hurt" the most, I know you spent alot of time with her especially during your last 3 months and I know you 2 had talks and a bond that will never be broken, she says a piece of her heart is gone and never will be replaced. I know those are true. Alex has your will, your frankness, and your no holds barred attitude. I have to admit, she is much stronger than I in many ways and I admire her. She is a good woman, good partner to Steve, good daughter and good sister. March is a hard month for me and the kids. I wish you could have stayed.... I know you are watching and I feel your presence. And I know you visit me cause I feel you strongly at times. Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

March 4, 2023

Proud of our Nicky! He is dedicated, and has a lot of perseverance. He did awesome today in his JuJitsu Competition

Coleen Spapperi

March 4, 2023

National Sons Day... You would be very proud of our sons. They are good young men, they have good hearts, they are very good to me, and they both have a lot of your spirit and qualities. Stevie is definitely more of you, Nicky is a combination of us both. It´s hard to believe you have been gone almost 17 yrs and they were 6 & 5 when you passed. You were needed and I know you wanted to raise them as your sons. I wish you could have lived to help raise our kids and be part of all the milestones they have went thru. Im thankful they had some good role models in your father, my father, and their coaches they turned out to be good humans.

Coleen Spapperi

February 15, 2023

Principessa Sophia aka Googles, Culipants.. is 9 months old... I can only imagine how much you would enjoy her and "what nicknames" you would have for her. She is a good baby, she is crawling, pulling herself up on everything, zooming around in her walker and is very busy. She is a joy.. I love her so so much..No matter what I know you are "watching" .. Ti Amo Steve

Coleen Spapperi

February 14, 2023

Sophia is 9 months old... You would love her more then I could even imagine..

Coleen Spapperi

January 30, 2023

Happy Heavenly 90th Dad & 60th Steve I can write a book on the reasons you are both missed. I wish you both were here especially in the last year, to meet Sophia .. If you were both here many many things would be different.. Steve I have to laugh because you freaked when you turned 30 .. I can only imagine how you would feel at 60 ( Laughing very hard right now). I know mine and the kids lives would have been different.. I know you wanted to be here and be a father, husband, and a son. The last 17 years have been hard ( but we have made it with some lessons, bumps & bruises.

When I said I do "I didn´t think the until death we do part would come in 12 yrs. Time "heals" memories are vivid, the "what if moments are daily" we all were "robbed" in all ways. I know you are with your birthday twin, best father in law in the world, best grandfather to our children and one of my favorite humans, your father.. We miss you Dad.. I can write a book on you. My kids miss you.. you stepped in as a grandfather for our kids when Steve passed and you LOVED US, you cared about us, I thank you for being the BEST Man I have met in my 58 yrs, I miss your jokes, I miss your calls all the time telling me you were calling the state police cause I was not picking up, calling to talk to the kids, helping us for all the years you were here after Steve left us. I know you were hurting after you lost Steve. I hope I made you proud as a mother to your grandkids and a wife to your son, I know we were far from perfect and probably annoying .. you never turned your back on your family, you helped all your children and loved them all. It hurts that you both are not on this planet to celebrate your day. But know we are and will always talk of you, love you, and never forget you. Give Ricky Ray Ray a hug.. he is missed too ...Ti Amo

Coleen Spapperi

January 26, 2023

Our baby is 22!! He will always be the "baby" of our 3. Nick.. Nicky.. Nicholas.. he is a GOOD HUMAN.. he would have definitely shocked you seeing that he was our crazy child with no fear or chill. He is a great son, respectful young man, dedicated to whatever he does ( work, jujitsu, his friends, his relationship, our family). He is my rock. He and Stevie are very good and loving to Sophia. I wish you were here to celebrate our sons 22nd birthday. You would be proud of the young man he has become. I would say he has both of us in him, "genetics are real"
We miss you Steve.

Coleen Spapperi

January 12, 2023

Our baby girl is 8 months old today.. I love my little googles, culo pants so much.. being a Nana is the best job ever .. Wish you could
Be here to enjoy being a Papa

Coleen Spapperi

December 27, 2022

Sophia & Nana 2022. She is a doll and I have so many people say that she resembles you.. lol. You would love that. She is a good baby.

Coleen Spapperi

December 25, 2022

Sophia´s First Christmas

Coleen Spapperi

December 25, 2022

Merry Christmas in heaven.. I know you and your Dad and all are celebrating TI Amo

Coleen Spapperi

December 14, 2022

17 yrs ago today & it was a Tuesday.. You hated Tuesdays after December 13, 2005.. we would come in after spending all day with your parents in clinic to my mom watching the kids and cooking and you would look at my mom and say "Ma, they kicked me down again... I hate Tuesdays".

My mother always would say that til the day she passed. Your time from diagnosis to "not being" here was short ...almost 3 months to the day and you were no longer "here" in the flesh.

I will always write about you, speak about you and love you "til the day I´m no longer here" as I sit here getting ready to decorate the Christmas Tree ( because I had to that year cause I didn´t want our kids to feel differently) it all floods back. That day, what the Drs said and what a long hard day it was for us all... and your Dad being your rock

Your " light went out" you didn´t want to hear anymore. You were in another head space and you knew I knew I had to "take the wheel". That was hard. I look at the last 17 yrs and the things that have happened.. Alexandria, Steve, Nicky being so young and you being so sick... you made me get up and go no matter what. I had no choice. Our kids are GOOD, I am proud of them and the humans they have become.
We have started our own traditions and look forward to living them, and our family growing and more beautiful milestones.

The best one so far is definitely our Sophia being born, She is the best thing that has happened in 17 yrs and I´m very very happy being a Nana and I´m sure you are watching from above and I know if you were here you would love being a Papa.

We miss you Steve and I will ALWAYS speak your name, tell our story, and include you because you and I started our family.. 17 yrs together and almost 17 years apart...I´m here "being OK" as I promised you I would be. Ti Amo Steve Spapperi. I will always love you

Coleen Spapperi

December 8, 2022

Sophia is 7 months old... it´s wild how time flies, she is so fun and bad.. lol! And looks like Alex & Stevie soooo much. I know you watching from above. I love our granddaughter sooooo much!

Coleen Spapperi

November 25, 2022

Sophia and Nana 6.5 months old.. She is the happiest human and she makes me the happiest Nana. She definitely has got a lot of spunk..

Coleen Spapperi

November 24, 2022

Sophia´s first Thanksgiving

Coleen Spapperi

November 21, 2022

Happy 29th my "forever husband"

Coleen Spapperi

November 13, 2022

Sophia Noreen Collins was baptized today. It was a beautiful day at the church we baptized our children in

Coleen Spapperi

November 12, 2022

Our granddaughter is 6 months old today.. I cannot believe how time flies.. but then again I know we are here for a "moment". Sophia is smart, busy, loud and a very good baby all in one. I cannot describe the feeling of love I have for her She is a joy, she and I have a very special bond and she will always "know of you".. Papa Steve I know you are smiling from above...

Coleen Spapperi

October 31, 2022

Sophia is her moms #GoogleDuck.. like Alex was your "duck lip baby " Halloween 2022

Coleen Spapperi

October 23, 2022

Our little pumpkin

Coleen Spapperi

October 21, 2022

Googles is 5.5 months old... Sophia is a joy, I feel so blessed. I wish you, Dad & my Mom were here to be a part of her life. Papa Steve I have no doubt you would have been an awesome grandfather. Baby Sophia is going to be "busy"..she makes me laugh and smile EVERYDAY.. not only are Alex & Steve wonderful parents..but your sons have really shocked me with how much they love and pay attention to her. She brought happiness into our life.

Coleen Spapperi

October 3, 2022

Our son is 23 today.. He is definitely your "mini" with a good heart, and a good human spirit. I´m proud of our boys.

Coleen Spapperi

September 24, 2022

Princess Sophia´s 4 month photo

Coleen Spapperi

September 21, 2022

Our Sophia ( Googles , Gaga Face) 3 month photo..She is my sunshine and daughter is a wonderful mommy. Sophia is very loved. She is an angel

Coleen Spapperi

September 20, 2022

Our sons are young men, Stevie and Nicky are definitely your "sons"

Coleen Spapperi

July 17, 2022

Our granddaughter is 2 months. She is a beautiful baby girl and soooooo good. I´m in love beyond belief. She is a pretty princess with an awesome smile. I wish you were here to meet her. You are missed Papa Steve, but she will "know" you and all about you. Ti Amo..

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