Ruben Reed Obituary

There are no words written to express just how much I miss and love you.

Your wife, Mary

Your life was a blessing, your memories are such a treasure...I want you to know that you are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.

Love your daughter Pam

Grandaddy, I love and miss you so much!!

Love your Granddaughter Allycia

EVERYDAY AND FOREVER WE KEEP YOUR LEGACY ALIVE!! FOREVER WITH US!! WE LOVE YOU AND MISS EVERYDAY ❤❤❤❤❤ YOUR CISSY BABY

They say things get easier with time and to give time time....it hasnt gotten easier. Missing You Uncle Daddy♥

Forever Your Angel

Oh my, Oh my!!!! How I MISSED YOU ON YESTERDAY!!! I WAS OFF YESTERDAY BUT COULD NOT BRING MYSELF TO THIS PAGE!!! THE HEARTACHE IS STILL THERE AS IT WAS THE EVENING YOU LEFT ALL OF US!!!! I KNOW YOU HAD A WONDERFUL BIRTHDAY UP THERE, AND I KNOW YOUR TWIN FELT YOUR PRESENCE, ALTHOUGH WE ALL KNOW HE STILL HURTS EVERYDAY HE CANNOT HEAR YOUR VOICE!!!! I LOVE YOU AND THINK OF YOU EVERY AND I DO MEAN EVERY DAY!!!! WE LOVE YOU SOOO MUCH!!! I SPEAK OF YOU IN PRESENCE BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL HERE AND WILL FOREVER BE IN MY HEART AND AS WELL AS ALL OF OUR HEARTS!!! CONTINUE TO REST WELL AND PLEASE CONTINUE TO WATCH OVER ME AND I KNOW YOU ARE LETTING YOUR TWIN FEEL YOUR PRESENCE EVERY DAY!!!! I LOVE AND MISS YOU SOOO MUCH!!!

FOREVER IN MY HEART, YOUR CISSY ❤❤❤

Missing you today...Happy 82nd Uncle Daddy...

Forever your Angel AND you're forever mine
I love you Uncle Daddy...I've never got over losing you, just managing to get through without you being here
Wish you were here..I've so much to tell you...but REST
Until I see you on the other side...I'll hold Twin 2 down for you.

Hey Uncle Ruben. looks like your Bears are trying to do something. But so are my Cowboys. I miss talking to you on Sunday mornings. You either on your way to church or leaving church. I miss how we talked about the games. Baseball basketball and especially football. Dennis and i enjoyed a game I'm Dallas along with other family. We had a great time. I'm just getting off work and just wanted you to know you are truly missed. I'm going to bed now take it easy. Love you

Hi Granddaddy:

It is hard to understand you have been gone for 7years. Words can't express just how much I miss and love you. I often cry trying to understand but everything is done on God's time. I know that you are taking good care of our Leelee and y'all having a lot of laughs.

Rest In Heaven (RIH) Granddaddy❤

I miss you so much Granddaddy Ruben.❤

-Dennis

Hey daddy we are still here missing you so very much! It's 7 years ago today that your life with us ended and ours was instantly changed forever. I still remember that day, I will never forget it. A lot of things have happened. Some of our family have gone on like you. We lost auntie Francis, we lost my other dad Lonzo and auntie Mammie just to name a few. I OFTEN think of what you use to tell me......'boy you're gonna miss me when I'm gone'......WOW, what weight that carries with me NOW!. 7 years later, I AM REALLY REALLY MISSING YOU, like CRAZY. Your grandbabies, the girls are growing into beautiful young women. You would have your chest stuck out if you were here. Your boys, Stingbean, Nosy, Fathead, me (Sparky) and Devin are doing fine. You, Lonzo, Hoss (uncle Robert, your OTHER HALF) and the other males in the family did a great job if raising us into men. Thank you daddy......Thank you AGAIN! I LOVE YOU and STILL MISS YOU, more than YOU said I would. YOU WILL NOT BE FORGOTTEN!!!!...... love you -Dennis.

Hey Mr. Ruben

hey thought you might like a lil update i'm 14 years old and i'm a freshman at morgan park high school . i realized that i couldn't forget about you if i could. i've changed a lot but i mean i'm still here doing what u need me to do and man i miss u like crazy i don't want to you but i know for a fact that you gone tell me it's been nearly 7 years since you left me your favorite grandson(don't worry i won't tell anybody) it's get harder and harder to talk about you nowadays because i didn't get a chance to see me grow but i know you still watching over but it would be nice for you to be right here next to me.but we can't always get what we want. grandma been doing a good job of taking me and picking me from school. i just can't stop thinking about how i couldn't say goodbye to you and you was right there in front of my school i couldn't say goodbye. i love you forever and forever and things ain't been the same since. people know how much you meant to me and there is no one i can blame for what happened and all i can do is show you that i doing something wit my life. i check up on everybody i try to take care of everybody in the house but i couldn't fill your shoes. man i love you you are my whole heart rest well

Me missing you granddaddy hasn't gotten any easier. Every birthday/holiday is so difficult not being able to see you or hear your voice saying, "Hey granddaughter."
I love you and miss you so much!!!

I miss you Mr. Reuben.

Even though it's been 6 years, I still can't get over the feeling that you're gone. When you left so suddenly, you took part of me with you. I think about you every day. You will forever be remembered. We talked 2-3 Times a day and i miss those times.

Love your other half, Robert

You're not here in person but Always in our hearts! We love you!

Your sister in law Jessie

They say things get better with time....Time hasn't helped me because I still miss you. I know crying will never bring you back. I miss our conversations and right about now I would tell on Bobby and Dennis for bothering me and you'd get onto them. I've nebwr missed someone more than I'm missing you. I love you Uncle Daddy and I pray it showed while you here on earth. Still can't bring myself to delete your #...AT&at finally deleted the last voice mail you left me. I guess because it was 5 years,11 months old. Rest on Uncle Daddy

BTW I turned 40 and even I can't believe it. You'd say I was getting old but you'd follow up with you're beautiful though baby you and your twin can clean up some sarcasm. Until meet again ❤

i will always love u

Granddaddy,

This has been the hardest four years of my life. I miss talking with you and I miss you telling me how you were going to be the security guard at my daycare when I open it. There are no words ever written to express how much I REALLY miss you. I hear you all the time saying, "Hey Granddaughter how you doing." I am glad I have Uncle Robert.

I love you granddaddy!!!

Your loving granddaughter, Allycia.

It has been four short years that I have had to missed seeing your face, hearing your laughter and watching football games with you. Difficult as it is, I know that you are in a better place looking after your grandson AlFonzo Lee Jackson.

I Love and Miss You Dearly!!
Your Daughter, Pam

hey i'm so glad he is in a happier place

There is no remedy for love but to love each other as God has intented for us to do. There is only one happiness in life and I chose to give that to you which was my love.....Still waters can't quench the thirst of love nor drown it, it's just the love of two people respecting, caring and sharing with each other. The fact that your gone just means that you are loved and really missed huny.....Rest in the peace and care of God my love. Loving Wife Mary Reed Sr.

You went away before you could tell me goodbye. I was looking for you to grow really old with me because the best was yet to come and be..... I thank the Lord for the love we had between us that abounded in our lives, How dark the days would be without it and how much richier we were for the fullness it brought us. Your Loving Wife Mary A. Reed SR.

Heart lifting promises from you to me on our wedding day..... To love me when I least deserve it because this was when I really needed it from you like right now. You have been gone almost four years and you are truly missed in many ways and the spirit of your love is missed from the heart..... Your Loving Wife Mary A. Reed

Missing you like crazy.. I love you Unc..

Ruben, I loved you with a love I seemed to lose with my lost....I loved you with the breath smiles and tears of all my life,and If God chose to, I shall love you better after death..... We've shared some very good times in our years of marriage and these times are truly missed.. I'll always remember them. Your Loving Wife Mary

Ruben, when we look back upon our lives, those are the moments when we have really lived and the moments when we have done things in the spirit of love, and when you take away love our earth is a tomb.... Honey you know that you took our love with you and we have always loved you and always will. Your Loving Wife Mary : ^)

Daddy Ruben ,you were my uncle and my dad who stood by me thick through thin and in good times as well as bad..... You loved me when I didn't know what unconditional love was and you fed me when I couldn't feed myself, and for that daddy ruben I'm truly greatful and very blessed. You would talk to me and advise me about life's experiences and how to live a happy and productive life. I've missed you so much since you have left, but God had a place for you with him and as hard as it is for me to accept daddy ruben,I know you had to go home.....I'll see you later rube.. I Love you and miss you.....Jody

Daddy Ruben, you raised me to be a better man then I've ever been in my life and I'm truly greatful to you for that. I miss you so very much. Not being able to see you,talk with you and share all of the special moments that we had together all of those years when you were here..... You will always be in my heart and thoughts daddy ruben. "Rest in peace" Love your nephew Jody

Pam, thank you so much for keeping this guest book online. I told my dad (Robert) that when I came home I would show him how his other half lives on. To know they're twins is one thing, but to actually see that they're identical is wow, it's something. That's why I've always called him uncle daddy:) again thank you...I have never deleted his phone numbers....I guess grief has no expiration date. Take care

Uncle Daddy, I don't think I've yet accepted that you're gone. I can't let you go. I hope you're resting. I love and miss you more than I've been willing to express because it's hard to make it a reality. Always your Angel

Those things that we consider to be obstacles and difficulties in our lives are often opportunities for God's greatest blessings for us....We must trust, believe, hope and continue to walk the path he has laid before us. BE A BLESSING TO SOMEONE ELSE IN THERE LIVES...LOVE YOU MUCH FORM MARION & ALVIN THRIST JR.

" Ruben time will never end but time will continue to remain unseen until the earth passes away and the good and bad separates...Then we shall receive our reward because time belongs to the Lord....Your Loving Wife, Mary A. Reed

As our strong provider carries us over the rough places in our lives, he spoke words of peace and blessings to our wounded hearts...God knew that we were weary and burdened, so he came and gave us the rest that we needed.....Love you Grand Daddy :^)

I the Lord, have called you in righteousness, I will take hold of your hand, I will keep you and will make you to be a covenant for the people and a light for the gentiles... It is better to rest in the presence of the Lord then to dwell in the camp of the enemy.

Two grils down 1 to go you teched so much and I want you to that you my everything

I LOVE YOU , YOU MEAN THE WORLD TO ALL OF US YOU WERE A VERY SPECIAL ANGEL FROM ABOVE YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE UNTIL FULL WE ALL LOVED YOU FULLY WE ALL MISS GRANDAD

I love you ment the world to me you treated me like i was your prnicess and i traeted you like a prnice i love you grandad.

I love so much grandaddy you made the world and me so happy that we had to do something sepcail for we all love you

I Love You So Much!!!


HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Granddaddy, I love and miss you so much. The times you spent with your great-grandson they really enjoyed.

I Love You!!!

Ruben, words can NEVER express how much I love and miss you. Almost two years have gone by, which I still can't believe but your love keeps me going. Often we take life and people from granted and time will pass us by. Today is your birthday and I miss you dearly.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, RUBEN REED SR.

My Husband, Companion, and Friend!!!

Granddaddy, I can't believe that it has been almost two years since you been gone out of my life. So many things I see on television, hear on the radio or when we drive pass the house remind me of how much I REALLY MISS YOU!!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, I Love You So Much!!!

Well dad I know that we should not dwell on the past..... but somethings are too hard to let go.....its been a year today that you made your transition. I haven't been back to Quyana's school, where your were found since that day, again a year ago.... The past year without you has been rough emotionally, but here Iam ....& I made it. Ive kept my promise to HOSS. I've seen twice this year & each time of course I see YOU all over HIM!!! I hope I'm holding up HOSS as much as he's holding up me... & your were right, I do miss YOU now that you are gone ...sunnyboy!!!!!! So what I do now is hold on real tight to HOSS. He may not be you, but He is the ' BEST STAND IN' in the world... I love you & miss YOU dad & thank GOD & YOU for leaving me my Uncle Robert (HOSS) here to bless me & help me through... '...and he shall give you another comforter that he may abide with you forever'... John 14:16.

While how time flys it only seems like yesterday you were here. Your brothers and family you left behind miss u very much. Prayer keeps them going and knowing one day you guys will meet again.

Uncle Ruben..... Uncle Ruben!!!!! EXACTLY... ONE YEAR AGO ON.....12/13/2011.... WE RECEIVED THA MOST UNREAL PHONE CALL..... THAT U WERE NO LONGER WITH US!!!!! ITS BEEN A YEAR... ND... IT STLL SEEMS SOOO UNREAL!!! MY HEART STILL ACHES EVERYDAY!!!! THERES NOT A DAY THAT GOES BY.... THAT I DONT THINK OF U ND SMILE!!!! THEN I FIND MYSELF N TEARS!!!! I KNW THEY SAY... TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS!!!! WELL.... IM HEAR TO JUS LET U KNW.... MY WOUND IS STILL SOOOO FRESH!!! I KNW I WAS TAUGHT U DONT QUESTION GOD.... BUT... UNCLE... I FIND MYSELF.... ASKIN GOD.... WHY, WHY, WHY... DIDNT U LEAVE MY UNCLE HERE LONGER!!! UNCLE RUBEN.... I CANT LET GO!!!! ITS SOOOO HARD!!!! EVERY SINGLE DAY.... MY HEARTS ACHES FOR YOU!!!!! ND TO LOOK MY DAD...(UR IDENTICAL TWIN) IS A CONSTANT REMINDER OF U!!! I LOVE MY DAD SOOOMUCH ND WIT ALL MY HEART... BUT... I CAN STILL SEE THA HURT ON HIS FACE!!! ND I KNW HIS HEART IS STILL BROKEN!!! I HAVE UR PICTURE OVER MY BED.... SO U CAN WATCH CLOSER OVER ME!!!! I KNW U R N A BETTER PLACE!!!! BUT.... THA WAY WE ACHE FOR U.... I ONLY WISH U WERE STILL HERE WIT US!!!!! LOVE YOU SOOOO MUCH!!! REST WELL!!! ND UR MEMORIES WILL ALWAYS B WITH US!!!! KEEP LOOKIN DOWN ON UR BROTHER ND LET HIM KNW UR WATCHING OVER HIM ND U WILL FOREVER BE WIT HIM N SPIRIT!!!! LOVE YOU!!!! UR CISSY

I love you uncle Ruben. I miss you man.

Uncle Daddy, it's hard to believe that a year is approaching that you've been gone. Truth is I don't think any of us have accepted it but we know it's quite real, because the pain is real, the tears are real. Daddy says apart if him is missing. For awhile he was very sad and depressed and lost so much weight. Some days he still is but as you would say "that sucka ain't turning no food down" now. He's gained a little of his weight back. He is keeping HOSS in line and they talk all of the time. We look after QUYERA when she comes to Monroe. Holidays just aren't the same. It's hard but we know that Heaven has a beautiful angel. We may never get over this but in time we will learn to cope. Just giving time some time. See you in heaven uncle daddy...save me spot right next to you. YOUR ANGEL xoxoxo?

Uncle Daddy we are approaching a year that you've been gone and I still haven't accepted it. It doesn't seem real. We miss you so much. Your other half, my daddy is very sad and depressed and he misses you. We try to uplift each other with laughter and memories. Daddy is keeping Hoss in line and we try to look after QUYERA when she comes to Monroe. For months I listened to the voicemail you left me. I just wanted to hear your voice. Apart of me feels your presence when I see daddy. That let's me know you won't let him go and you're his angel. I know in time we won't cry anymore but we will never stop missing you. We just have to give time, time. I love you more than I had time to express. I'll see you on the other side. xoxo

Well uncle Ruben I guess I can't call you any more and say hi to you and tell you that you are better looking than my dad as you would say. But you know what it is all good because I know that you and daddy is laughing and talking bout the good ole days but the only bad thing about that is the rest of the family is not there to laugh with you all. So before I start shedding tears beacause I miss my dad and you too. I am gonna say see you all when I get there make sure my seat is right between you all. Love and Miss you all.

Miss u Uncle Ruben...wishing u were here to make your brother whole again! Love Tiny

Uncle Ruben... This is my 3rd attempt to try and write this, without BREAKING DOWN!!!! And its still VERY HARD!!!So many times lastnite(12/25/11) i wanted to pick -up the phone and call u, because i know you have been watching the CHICAGO BULLS...Starring.. Derrick Rose!!! I couldnt do anything but...SMILE!!! Because you would know it was me calling saying.... Uncle Ruben... Im helping you CHHER on D.Rose!!! Uncle Ruben... Im going to MISS EVERYTHING about you!!!! You and Dad SHARING BIRTHDAYS TOGETHER!!! Play Arguing over who was BORN 1ST!!!! ALL THE VISISTS YOU, Dennis & his Family would do!!!Uncle Ruben...In the Pass... I used to say i understood DEATH!!! But... Since you have left us...I guess the REALITY of it is.... I really DONT understand!!! Because right now... I AM SOOOO DARN HEARTBROKEN!!!! AND SO IS THE ENTIRE FAMILY!!!! I know that you and DAD are IDENTICAL TWINS...But... Uncle Ruben... WE STILL ALL NEED YOU!!! I honsetly cannot remember EVER FEELING AS HEARTBROKEN AS I AM RIGHT NOW!!!! I know we still have apart of you, thru Daddy, BUT...WE All NEEDED YOU to make OUR LIVES WHOLE AGAIN!!! ALL we have are the MEMORIES OF YOU.... THAT WE WILL HOLD ONTO FOREVER & EVER!!!!! This was the HARDEST HOLIDAY TO GET THROUGH FOR ALL OF US!!! ESPECIALLY YOUR OTHER HALF(YOUR TWIN... OUR DAD... ROBERT)It also HURTS US to LOOK into his EYES and SEE THE PAIN HE'S GOING THROUGH!!! Because PART of him is GONE!!!! WE WILL MISS YOU!!! WE WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER!!!! I wish i could just WRAP MY ARMS AROUND YOU, AND NOT LET GO!!!! YOU WERE THE BEST UNCLE/DADDY WE COULD HAVE ASKED FOR!!!! I LOVE YOU SOOO MUCH!!!!!! AND I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN!!!! AND WHEN I SEE YOU.... I KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO SAY WHAT YOU ALWAYS SAID>>>> HEYYYYYYY MY BABY!!!!! MY ENDLESS LOVE!!!! CISSY

Uncle Ruben im missing you my friend as I watched the Cowboys lose satutday, I was waiting for your call to hear you say "HOW BOUT DEM COWBOYS" and then laugh..im gonna miss you so much, but I know you live in your twin now..before you both were born you shared one body now that you have given your body up you share one body together again..you will truly be missed..i love you Unc!!

*****MERRY CHRISTMAS*****,
Ruben, Daddy Ruben, Mr. Ruben, Granddaddy and Great-Granddaddy. Today was a really difficult day for all of us because this was our first Christmas without you here. We missed your smile, laughter, you opening your presents, the way you slept after eating Christmas dinner, and us watching a good sports game or a Western on TV together. We realize God is in control, he makes no mistakes and we have a little comfort in knowing we will see you again one day. We love and miss you so much!!!

XOXOXOXOXO HUGS & KISSES XOXOXOXO

All Our Love!!!

Uncle Daddy words cannot describe how I feel right now. I find myself constantly listening to the voicemail you left me 11/30/11 just to hear your voice and your laugh. When you left us I feel like apart of us left too. I know you would want us to proceed with a healthy life but it seems so hard. I know it's only because we feel fleshy right now but I know when we invite the Holy Spirit in we will truly be comforted. God has an angel in heaven. That angel's name is uncle daddy. I love you

I will forever Miss & Love U
Uncle Ruben RIP
Your niece
Alice Faye

Daddy thank you for teaching me to be a man....we've talked, you've taught & i've learned.....I will ALWAYS respect you, honor you, miss you & love you. I know there will be days that I will need you & I know you will be there. Thank you for being my families rock... Granddad, Mr. Reed, Hoss, Rube, & Daddy....... RUBEN REED SR. You are and will be MISSED!!!!!!

Granddaddy, you came into our lives over 22 years ago and we are thankful. Days and weeks have a way of turning into months and years. Seasons and times change. People may come into lives or may drift away, but there is one thing for certain, we will always remember and cherish all of the memories, advice, your listening ear, kindness, patience, comfort, funniness, funny stories, unconditional love, support, encouragement, and lessons about life you gave each one of us. We thank you for being there for any extra curricular activities, graduation, birthday, holiday and the birth of your great-grandchildren. We loved you so much granddaddy and will miss you greatly!!!!! All our love, your grandchildren: Alfonzo L. Jackson (35); David J. Jackson, Jr. (33) and Allycia L. Jackson (25).

Thank you for being the best great-grandfather in the world. We know that you really loved us. You gave the best hugs, kisses and ice cream. We will love, treasure, and remember you always. Even though we are young and have not lived a long time on this earth, we are grateful for all the times we spent with you. We will miss you so much. You will always hold a very special place in OUR HEARTS!!!! “A great-grandfather is someone with SILVER in his hair and GOLD in his heart.” Love your great-grandboys – David J. Jackson, III (2 years) and Christopher James Jackson (11 months).

hey granddad it's lee; i am so glad to have known, loved, cherished, been taught, shared, cried, and studied what 75 years on this realm that we know as plant earth afforded you and your kids. and for this i am ever so greatful!!! your wealth of knowledge has provided me invaluable years of wisdom that has allowed me to implement a lot of your teachings in my life personally, which in turn i am better able to bestow unto both my immediate as well as my extended families lives. because of this you truly and regretfully will forever be missed, although never and i mean never ever forgotten!!! i will always love you and will continue to keep your memory alive. i will see you in the next realm heaven!!!!!
love forever,
lee

Ruben Jr., you & your entire family have my deepest sympathy. You're in my prayers. If there is anything you need, let me know. Luther Wakefield([email protected])

Though it causes us pain, we must accept God's will.

Hey Mr. Ruben, I will see you on the other side. Hold my seat!!!! Love your daughter, Paula

Words can not express the loss that I feel everyday in my heart since you made your transition. You have been my father for the last 22 years of my life. Thank you for your words of encouragement, support, advice and love. I will miss you!!!! Love your daughter. Pam.