Roger Jakubowski Obituary

I thought I saw you the other day. Guess I've just missed you a lot lately.
It seems like only yesterday I was laughing with you and Katie.
What would I begin to tell you, though, how would I start?
“Oh, can you actually believe that I finally got a car?
Don't worry, man, we could always still bike out to nowhere,
Play tee ball in the park and buy some tickets to the school fair.”
And I'd laugh about how you're raising hell up in heaven,
I could tell you about college and the places that I have been.
“But, I could've been a better friend to you back in the day.
Never watching you compete for track or your Friday night games.
I'm sorry I never helped you with the burdens that you carried.
I'm a different person now- and did you see that your brother got married?”
I'd shrug off things you do or fashions you might get into.
No matter what people assume, I've always known the real you.
You were my first best friend; I thought that you knew that?
Kindergarten, ski trips, and how you always made me laugh out?
I smile to myself at the things these people will say.
Because I know the truth you never left, you just simply passed away.
Don't think for a second, though, that I wouldn't even remember.
I keep waiting to have a drink with you every Fifteenth of November.
So let's celebrate tonight, man- just you and me.
I haven't forgotten your birthday, Roger- Happy Twenty-Three.

I got the pleasure of growing up with Roger through Shepherd of the Desert. Roger always wore a smile and was so full of life. He brought happiness through laughter and always brightened up someones day. I regret not being able to keep contact with Roger throughout high school, however I am forever grateful for the pleasure of knowing a great young man. The world could definitely use more Rogers. Rest easy buddy, I'll never forget you.

To all of Roger's Family and Friends
I can't believe it has been 1 year since that horrible day. In many ways the time has gone by quickly but in others it has been an eternity!! I miss Roger so very much, I think of him daily. I recently had the opportunity to look over some pictures of him compared to other people, they have all aged but he remains just 18... I think it was Bob Dillion who sang Forever Young.. Please don't ever forget Roger... for I never will. He was a wonderful young man who was so smart and so loved by many of us. I am so lucky to have the pleasure and experience of adopting two great... great sons. Most fathers will never know the joy that has givin to me and will continue to give for my entire life and beyond! I know a few of you have told me that you have seen or spoken to Roger in the past year. I have never had that great opportunity yet but I pray one day I will before I go be with him and the rest of my great family again. Thank you all for your incredible support and love. Frank Jakubowski

Frank, Debbie & Michael-
The first time I met Roger was right before Eric and I were married in 2000. His personality just drew me in. I thought both boys were just great kids. There were a few other occasions soon after that really stand out in my mind and the big one was at our wedding. It wasn't just the girl in the red dress he was dancing with, it was every girl there. He had a blast and so did everyone who was watching him.

I hope you can find comfort in those precious memories. God is watching over you right now too.

Love & Prayers,
Eric, Shelly, Madison, Drew & Justin

So sorry to hear about Roger. My thoughts and prayers are with your families during this trying time.

I was sadden to learn of the loss of your son/brother. May you find comfort and peace in the memories you have shared together.

I'm sorry and saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you

Frank, Debbie and Michael,
words cannot express my deepest sympathies at this time. I wish you all peace and healing and faith during this most difficult time.
God Bless all of you and hold you in the palm of His hand.
Maureen

Dear Frank, Debbie and Michael,

With deepest sympathy on the loss of your son Roger. Know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers.

Gene and Carole Hannon

Frank and Debbie,
It is with deep sympathy for us all that we heard about Roger today. We remember Roger best pushing and pulling his trombone slide at music camp and seeing you applauding his musical accomplishments. We wish you G-d speed in filling that canyon of sorrow with all the love and memories Roger brought to you and all those around him.

Debbie and Family,
My heart broke when I heard the news. Though it has been a long time since I've seen you, it feels like only yesterday Roger and my girls were in elementary school. Debbie, I always enjoyed a quick chat with you and I loved seeing your smiling face at school. I don't have the words to express to you my sympathy.
Love and Blessings,
Lynette Molina

Aunt Debbie, Uncle Frank, Michael...
We are thinking of Roger and all the great memories of holidays, vacations, and fun times... those days are irreplaceable and the memories are priceless. It so hard to understand the meaning of times like these, but we do know that Roger is in God's care, and the care of everyone who has passed onto Heaven in our family.
Children come into each of our lives for some great reason, they seem to give our lives a different meaning and an endless love, of it's own kind.
I hope God gives you the strength you need, and keeps the memories of Roger alive in you everyday.
Love you, Kristy, Steve, Christian and Dylan

Dear Debbie,
Remember back when...............
We are sitting in your kitchen and you just made a pot of coffee (I brought my own cup) and we are looking out your kitchen window. Running around laughing and giggling are three boys...two with dark hair (Michael and Christopher) and one with blond hair (Roger). The little one is trying to catch up to the two older ones and he is smiling from ear to ear, having the time of his life.

That is how I will remember Roger, always smiling and having a great time. He will be dearly missed, but his memory will always be in our hearts.

God bless you dear friend.
Love,
Diane

Dear Frank and Debbie, I think of you every day and I pray all the time that you will get through this together. I hope you find comfort in knowing how much we all loved Roger and all the good memories we all have of him and that sweet smile of his. I love you, Janet

Dear Uncle Frank, Aunt Debbie, and Michael,
It was with a great sense of loss that we learned of Roger's passing. We wanted to let you know that we are grieving and thinking of you all. May you find comfort in the love of your family and friends.
Love, Alexis, Dan, and baby Ryan

Frank and Debbie,
I was shocked to find Frank's e-mail when I came back from leave.
We have lost a wonderful person in Roger's passing. No words can express to you my feelings of your loss but I know my life was enriched by knowing Roger and both of you. We know we were there to help Roger and will miss him until we can join him in Heaven. He will be there to welcome us and make us smile.
God's Peace be with you both.
Mike Cowie

Dear Frank, Debbie and Michael, Our family has suffered the loss of another son, brother, nephew and cousin. Thank you for bringing Roger into all our lives. He will always remain in our hearts as well as yours. We will remember him and smile. Love, Ellen and Jules

Dear Aunt Debbie, Uncle Frank and Michael. All my love, thoughts and prayers are with you now during this time of such saddness. I believe that Roger is in a good place right now where we can one day all be together again. I hope that all the fond memories of Roger help bring peace and comfort to you and the so many others who are missing Roger. Love, Cousin Jill

I'm sorry and saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dear Michael, Debbie and Frank, I'm so terribly sorry about Roger's passing. I have so SO many wonderful memories growing up of playing with Michael and Roger which I will always treasure. He always brought a smile to everyone around him and will truly be missed.

We are very sorry and sad to hear about Roger. Please know that our peace, thoughts, and prayers are with you. May his memory be eternal!
Sharon Makhoul and Family

Dear Frank, Debbie and Michael. What a rich life of experiences Roger had in your family. You gave him a good life. I loved the poem you wrote to him on display at the viewing: "How Do I Love You." That said it all.

Best wishes,

Frank and Debbie,
I was so sorry to hear of the passing of your son, Roger. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

...I am so sorry for your loss. Roger was a good friend of mine.
you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers....

Dear Aunt Debbie, Uncle Frank, & Michael,
My heart breaks for you and I feel an emptiness inside. At the same time I feel that we were all blessed with the opportunity to have Roger in our lives. His soft blonde hair and his wide smile made everyone just want to hug him. God must need a very special angel. I think of Roger now sitting with his grandparents and Pop Pop Grafe holding his hand (and offering him a cold one).
Roger will always have a special place in my heart.
Love,
Sharon

I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray for comfort in your family as you heal. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Deb, Frank, Michael & loved ones.

All too well we know the heartbreak that you are going through. A young life taken before it could reach it's full potential or fully enjoy all the gifts God has given us. We pray that the strength of all of you together will get you through these first terrible weeks, and peace and hope will fill the future.

I'll always remember him at Eric and Shelly's wedding dancing (repeatedly) with the gal with the red dress on. What a hoot he was.

Love you guys: Steve and Linda

Frank, Debbie and Michael, no words can express what you must be enduring right now. I pray that God will lighten your burden with time, heal you from this deep sorrow, and allow you to hold on to those precious memories of Roger until you some day meet him again. There's another angel in heaven now. His spirit will never leave you. Please be comforted in knowing Roger is now in God's care.

Dear Debbie, Frank and Michael, We are so saddened by Roger's passing and wish we were there for a big family hug. Like you, we are trying to focus on all the happy times with Roger, playing in the neighborhood and on our infamous camping trips.

I was Rogers t-ball coach when he was just a little boy. After all these years my Wife and I still think of him and always enjoyed seeing him now and then. He was just one of those people that just made us smile. Is hard to explain why he touched us so but I am sure many understand. Our prayers are with you all.
God Bless,
Dean and Jill Bloxom

I remember first meeting Roger as a sixth grader entering mountainside. He was always a funny kid, and nice to me as well. We lost contact, but became reacquainted again last year, when we both were in the wrestling program at Desert Mountain. He always had a great attitude, and will be missed. I'm fairly shocked to hear about this, and just wanted to express my sympathies for this terrible loss.

Frank and family, Susan and I are terribly saddened by your loss. Our hope is that the Lord will ease your pain and help you find peace and comfort in His love.

Dear Frank and Debbie,
We are so sorry for your great loss. We are keeping you and your family in our prayers.
With Love,
Nelda and Mike

Frank, Debbie, and Mike,
May you find comfort in the memories that are always yours to cherish, and strength in the companionship of those who share your loss.

Frank, Debbie & Mike:

We are saddened to learn of your great loss. May the love of family and friends help comfort you in this most delicate time.

Dear Frank, Debbie, Michael,
You have our sincerest condolences and our prayers.
God bless.

Frank, Debbie, and Mike it has been a long time but I still cherish the memories made playing with Mike and Roger. I am so sorry for your loss. May god give you peace and resolution.

Frank,
My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. My thoughts are with you.

No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.

Frank, Debbie, and Michael,
My heart is so sad for your loss. I pray in the days ahead you can find strength in your faith, and comfort that Roger's spirit lives on in your hearts.

Mr. and Mrs. Jakubowski and Michael,

It's been a long time since Mike and I have talked. It's probably been even longer since our families were in touch. I remember working at the #1 club with Roger and the other kids his age, and I'm utterly shocked and saddened to hear about his passing. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Frank

I am truely sorry for your loos, know you will be close in thoughts and Prayers

Mike and Mr. and Mrs. Jakubowski - I was shocked and saddened to here of Roger's passing. I know we haven't exactly kept in touch, but I definitely have not forgotten all of the afternoons back in our old neighborhood. It was a joy to have known Roger. Know that in this difficult period my thoughts and feelings are with all of you.

Frank and Debbie,
May God Bless you and give you strength during this incredibly difficult time. You are in my prayers.

Frank, Debbie and Michael
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you in this time of loss. If there is anything that we can do for you please let us know.

Regards,

Frank, Debbie and Michael,
I am saddened to hear of the loss of your precious Roger. Nothing on this Earth can prepare a family for the loss of a child. Strength is found in God and your wonderful, loving family and friendships.
Peace and Grace,

Frank, Debbie and Michael, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Frank and Deb, I was so saddened to hear of Rogers passing. I will always have happy memories of Roger as a teammate of Chase's for Baseball, Track and Football. I enjoyed talking with him at the snack bar after football practice. His love of sports was ever present.

Frank, Debbie and Michael; Our Deepest Sympathy with the loss of your son and brother, Roger will be missed, "We Will Meet Again". You all are in our thoughts and prayers.

I was so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Frank,
Debbie and Michael. No words can ease your pain and profound sense of loss. Only time will allow the good memories to balance the heartache. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.

Frank and Debbie, I was shocked and saddened when I heard about this tragedy the other night. There are no words of mine that can ease your sorrow, but please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

My heart is so sad for each and every member of your family & the close family friends that had the opportunity to share the life of Roger. He enriched many lives merely by his presence. God provided him a loving home & family to take care of him until he was to return to his maker. May God bless each of you with comfort and fond memories at this deeply sad time & forever.

Dear Frank, Debbie and Michael

My deepest sympathy and condolences are with each of you and your family during this most difficult time.

Sincerely,

Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child. In the days to come the tears will fall. We can only hope you can take comfort in knowing that the Lord gave him wings, you gave him his roots. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Jackie & Debe

Frank, Debbie, & Michael
Life.....so fragile, Loss....so sudden, Heart....so broken,...in the wake of such a loss, we are haunted by things we don't, and may never understand. Yet the solace we seek may not come from answers. So we look for comfort in the belief of love's everlasting connection. May that love lift you and hold you close, and give you peace.

Dear Frank and Debbie,
So sorry to hear of your great loss. May God send his Holy Spirit to comfort you at this time. Our prayers are with you and for your son.
God Bless, Graham

Frank,
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear Frank, Debbie and Michael; The tragic loss of your son and brother, Roger, has profoundly touched all of the team here at @aquila. We can't begin to imagine the intense pain and sorrow you are experiencing at this most difficult time. Please know that our prayers and thoughts are very much with you all as we share in your very sad loss.

Michael, you are a very special and much valued member of the @aquila family. Please know you have the friendship, love and support of us all.

Most sincerely,
David & The @aquila Family

Frank, Debbie,Michael
Roger is where we all want to be someday and will be in our prayers as will all of you . May God give you all the strength to endure these difficult times......God Bless, Jim and Joan Kimmel

Frank, Debbie & Michael, my family's thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of loss.

Frank and Debbie - our sincere condolences to you and the family. We are shocked and deeply sadden for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Jeff and Michelle

Frank, Debbie, and Michael,

Words cannot express the sorrow that we feel for the loss of your son Roger. I dont know of anything worse than losing an child or brother, especially at such a young age. Although we never had the opportunity to meet him, if he possessed the compassion and sincere respect for people that Frank has, I know that your loss will truly be felt by others.

Losing a child is one of the saddest life challenges and I want you to know that I am thinking of you during this time of loss. You have my sincere condolences.

In sympathy,

Our condolences, along with thoughts, concerns and prayers go out to you. If there is anything we can do to help in this time of need, please do not hesitate to ask.
Ron & Sherry Kidder

Frank, it really saddened me to hear about the loss of your son. My prayers and best wishes are with you and your family during this time of grief.

There are no words to ease your pain and sorrow. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Words cannot express how much we sympathize for your situation. We are so sorry for your loss.
Please let us know if there is anything the Paul family can do for you.

Frank and Debbie,
Hopefully in time your sense of loss will be replaced with only happy memories. My thoughts are with you. Warmly, Jan Mayer-Rodriguez

Frank and Debbie,
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sincerely,
Bruce and Lila

Please accept our heartfelt condolences, our deepest sympathy and our tears. We will always remember Roger's smile, his enthusiasm and his ability to catch frogs.