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Phyllis Bender Obituary

Bender, Phyllis (nee Gasinski) Age 71, passed away peacefully on September 10, 2015, in La Quinta, CA after a brief battle with pancreatic cancer. Beloved mother of Sandra and the late Gregory; loving sister of Dorothy Bendis (the late Theodore) and Christine Baradiez (Robert). She was preceded in death by her parents, Pearl (nee Radolak) and Joseph; and her siblings, Joseph, Frank, Anthony, and Mary (Elman). Also survived by other loving relatives and dear friends. Phyllis worked for the United States Post Office for over 20 years. After retiring, she followed her passion for fitness and worked at the Alsip Park District for over 10 years. Her move to California brought tremendous joy as she spent her days with her daughter and her granddog, Gizmo. The family will receive friends on November 7th from 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. at the Villaggio Apartments Resident Lounge, 80175 Avenue 52 La Quinta, CA and at a funeral mass on November 28th at 10:00 a.m. at St. John The Baptist Church, 1849 Lincoln Avenue, in her hometown of Whiting, IN. In lieu of flowers, donations to ASPCA of Los Angeles, or the BrightFocus Foundation (Alzheimer's Disease Research) would be appreciated.

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Published by Chicago Sun-Times on Oct. 20, 2015.

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Connie Cosbey

October 25, 2015

God bless you Phyllis. I appreciated your friendship, your wisdom, your stories, your feisty attitude and your visits that included Gizmo. You were truly a remarkable person and I will miss you. May your family find peace in their memories of you.

Michael Bender

October 22, 2015

I will never forget all good time we shared. Family Christmas, labor day at grandmas house and wild new years parties. Also I will never forget those spinach meatballs you made for me. I'm only sorry we never had a chance to see each other over these many years. I Love you and will continue to miss you. Rest Peacefully
you will always be in my heart.
Love you forever
Michael

October 22, 2015

Phyllis was one very special person. She touch everyone's heart at she came into contact with.
We will remember all time's that we share with our family and hers. These were very special time and they our etched in our memories.
Rest in peace Phyllis run free.
Love always,
The Skarupa Family

October 22, 2015

Phyllis will always be carried in my heart for you were one of the best. You were more family then a friend and that is why I loved you so much. I am so glad that I came to see you it meant the world to me to spend the time with you. I thank you for being our son's godmother and being there for us.
My deepest sympathy goes out to Sandra for her loss for you were the best MOM that there was. We will be here if she needs us anytime. You are her special angel and will always be watching over her and I hope that helps her to know that you are with her each and everyday.
Love you always.
Lorraine

October 21, 2015

AUNT PHYLLIS I WILL MISS YOU AND I LOVE YOU. YOU WILL BE MISSED BY ALL OF US. RIP.I ALWAYS REMEMBER THE GOOD OLD DAYS YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART.GOD BLESS YOU IN HEAVEN.LOVE,YOUR NEICE PATTY BENDER

Linda

October 20, 2015

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

October 20, 2015

I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is very painful. May God comfort you during this time. He will grasp your hand and help you to endure. Isaiah 43:10,13

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Memorial Events
for Phyllis Bender

Nov

7

Visitation

10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m.

Villaggio Apartments Resident Lounge

80175 Avenue 52, La Quinta, IL

Nov

28

Funeral Mass

10:00 a.m.

St. John The Baptist Church

1849 Lincoln Avenue, IL

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