Nancy Heinen Obituary

Mom, you are with me every day, through the smiles in your great grandchildren Houston, Murphy, Monroe, through the whisper in the garden surrounding us. I feel your strength, your peace, your love of the today... Dad and I speak of you often, Sue each day. May the peace of Christ shine brightly in you and upon us in these troubled times. Pray for dad and Sue to find gratitude for the gifts in this short life. Pray for Zach, Stephanie, Alex, Lindsey, Shirley, and Carol x2, and thank you for watching over Stephanie and Mike this year.

Mom, missing you standing, sitting with me. Difficult times abound, but your strength, by God... is our strength.

Jay

Mom:

We all take a moment to celebrate you and remember the day you went home to him.

Another love joined you this year, care and pray for Rose´s sister Terry. May she find comfort with her family.

Another year that Alyssa is without Tyler; she smiles in the outside, and his strength and that of he, helps her find a new day. She is surrounded by the love of Chip and Sue, and Tyler.

Houston Michael Heinen, your great-grandson, what a joy of life. God willing and you're watching over, two great-granddaughters coming this way in early summer.

Zachary appears to have found his life partner, Stephanie. She is a joy to be with and a kind loving girl that we love. Not to mention she keeps Zach in check.

Mike and Mel are well, three grandsons, and God willing two granddaughters this summer. Huey has so much fun at the farm with his grandpa and grandma.

Kind of cool that he gets a lil country and a lil city from the four of us.

Pray for Alex and Zach, that they always find peace each day.

Your and his love helping the doctors support Shirley during our scare last fall is always remembered. Thank you to you and Evelyn too, for giving her strength.

Dad has shocked us all with his aggressive comeback to exercise every day with me. He tries so hard and the results are seen by all.

Pray for Sue to find comfort and strength as she fights on, and thanks to God for being her spouse and loving her each day.

And yes, all of the furry ones making our life so much better, ring of you and your love for them too.

I ramble a bit, and stumble to get to the point. I see you every day, and miss you being here, though know you are always beside me when I falter, and know that you help me stand back up and move on.

You are the heart of our family, and putting this thoughts into words, helps me remember how blessed we are.

Jay

Mom:

So much to say, most importantly, you live on each day in all of us. May your brother Frank and Sister Lorraine find comfort in your loving arms.

You surround me each day and I thank you for your embracing support,

Love Jay

Mom:

Too many years now, soon to be a grandfather and mother; dad to be a great grandfather...

You would be so proud of Alex and Linds; Zach working very hard, and he too proud; he put ot all on the line to help his friend this past October.

What do they say? If not me to help, then whom?

Sue and Carol are working hard, their birthday this coming Sunday; 55 and 65 each.

And all of the fuzzy ones are loved as you taught us, soon Mollie to be with you. Heartbreaking for me and Shirl.

Miss you every day, and I have faith that you are always with me; even when I go a stray.

In his name, and forever that time allows; I love you.

Jay

Mom:Where have the years gone. Eighteen thus far. Though you walk with me everyday, I am remiss if not to say that your physical presence is so missed. I am an imperfect man that can only hope that I am deserving of your eternal love with that of our father.

Mom:

Too long, not forgotten, with me and us every day. I miss you? Though your influence continues with me.

Watch over your grandchildren, welcome this who have gone before me, love the fuzzy ones who are in our memories.

Jay

Mom:

So much change:

Alex and Lindsey getting married
Zach working through his start of the future
Shirley and I at a loss for where time has gone
Dad wanting to heal what time has brought him
More collie love, More collies at rest

You are in my thoughts and prayers with love each day

Pray for us

Mom:

Happy birthday;
You are always in my heart during the tough and smooth times in life. I think of you as a check point of rightfulness, and I know the boys see and think of you in the same.

Time keeps moving along and this year is full of blessing and heavy weight too.

Forever in our and my heart.

Love,

Jay

Mom:

Happy Birthday...

We continue to be blessed with our sons...both now away at OSU... you would be so proud.

I miss you every day, and yet your warmth keeps me going.

Our love. Shirley, Alex, Zach, Jay

Celebration of your life as another birthday rolls on by....alex readying for OSU, Zach now a Junior, Shirl and the pooches are good too.

Think of you often and feel / see your presence every day.

All my love,

Jay

Mom, I know this is a day late but you were in my thoughts all day and my words as well.

Alex and Zach are well, proud you would be (are) of them. They push a little more each day to see how far their independance will take them. Good to see the quiet one trying it even more (Alex in case you did not guess). Zach is playying captain serious and I love to get a smirk out of him and even better a laugh because its just not cool to be funny with mom and dad.
Shirl and I try to find solid ground in this new life as the boys grow away from us, its hard to know where to begin when your circle gets smaller. Guess it should'nt be but it is.
Dad readys to move into his new home early August and I am happy for him, know you would be too. 215 was getting to be too much for him and I was always worried the call would come that something had happened. So yes I am glad he's moving to the new place where he will not have to get on the roof and all. It will also be nice for him to have Jim and Pat around the corner too.

Scary call about Aunt Ellen, prayers are with her as she goes throught e tests. Worried about her, uncle chuck, Chip and Deb too.

No one wants that phone call, but we all know it will come our way like a knock on the front door, its unavoidable.

Pasha and Bella are well, I swear Shirley is gonna be a Collie advocate for the rest of her life.....they return what she gives ten fold.

Me, I am okay too riding my bike each day to work and find tremendous freedom in it and compete with myself a little more each day too. Riding in Pelotonia at the end of August and your name will motivate me on as well as those I know who have been struck by cancer.

So, everyone is in our prayers and thoughts, keep extra ones for Aunt Ellen right now and my best to the fuzzy friends too.

Love me.

Mom,

Another year of your and Dad's anniversary, another year of Shirl's mom's birthday, another year period..

The boys are well, defining themselves every day and letting us know we are no longer the center of the universe. That was a hard one to digest!

Uncle Bob's service was nice good to see everyone and realize that the cousins (first generation) go from 38 to 51, and of course I am little north of center to the Norm on that too.

Everyone looks good, families well, and Uncle Bob is surely with you enjoying that 24oz can of beer that he was sent off with (smile).

Sue still struggles the most outside of Alex and Zach (I am not much better, but I bury the feelings until at times they just come rolling off my face) and I don't think that will ever change. Not sure it should , but still want to see more living and celebrating of the memory than the sadness. Probably easier said than done I know.

Dad is good probably needs to slow down but just installed a beautiful stone floor in the house... I think he get's lonely when he is by himself, I need to get up to see him more often but do talk with him every day. Talk about his impression on the boys.... on the night of vets set up for the big lunch honoring them the next day Zach attempted speaking German to an old teacher... something like shisn de hossen.. You get the picture and my ears caught that across the room, and yes that would be a papa thank you very much (smile!)

Ski season is upon us and I will always clearly recall skiing with the little guys on the big Grand Lakes Mountain, so simple... Now it’s jumping off the face of one at 10k feet, agh!
A little more invigorating and both boys love it.

It’s really hard right now knowing what to do as a parent, when to let go, when to hold fast, when to just say nothing and smile outward and bunch up inside.

Freedoms are earned, not easily and at a cost, we just want our boys to move cautiously through the process, unfortunately they have been running their whole life and the letting go of that gentle ribbon is none the easier and in fact harder.

Run, Run, Run.... time to remember to enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.

Happy Anniversary

Thinking of you always.

Love

Jay

Mom,

Thinking about you today.... Time ticks on, memories continue and stories of your grandson's adventures become more alive each day.... Wrestling, Choir, Culinary Arts, Skiing, Scouting, Driving (if you can believe it!), girls now too! We miss you all the more.

It is hard to understand that trap we continue to fall into during our darkest times missing you the most. The whys, the this is not fair, the feeling that you are in the room with me still...

Be proud more than ever of your grandsons and family as a whole... while not Norman Rockwell, each has lots to be proud of. Carol just being recognixed as teacher of the year for a second time; Shirley and I celebrating 21 yeasr of being together with a great trip to celebrate because Dad watched the boys. We know a few fuzzy ones are around you too as Peepers fell to your side this year as did Scribbles from Jennifer... More to love I guess

On the boys and my trip to Salt Lake, I looked down from Snow Basin in awe realizing even more how small we are individually, but how big we are as one family.

Always in my heart and thoughts....

Jay

From: Jim Heinen
To: Heinen Jim
Cc: 'Shirley Heinen' ; [email protected] ; [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, November 18, 2008 8:35 AM
Subject: A day of beginning, A day of renew, A day of reflection


Dad,



I wanted to tell you today that not too long ago when you and mom chose to share a lifetime together that I am sure neither of you considered how short that time on this earth might be, and I am sorry for that. How is it said, good years, tough years, all of them working years… And during those tough times of just when you feel like you wanted to give up…you both pushed on…



2 children, both not without imperfection yet successfully individual in their own way… 2 grandchildren that are struggling to grow into their bodies while not wanting to let go of the simplicity of childhood… A daughter in law whose mother celebrates this same day as her earth born day that brought another branch of life our shared garden. A love for the furry friends that encircle our feet, the connection only continues to pick up momentum and establish new boundaries beyond the garden.



Memories of life, birthdays, parents, siblings, births, and then life happens…… all of the sudden life is snipped away from you without approval, without remorse, without apology, it is simply gone.



I will never forget mom’s eyes when I saw her last, the want to reach out with words in them, the connection of sadness in them, all of the things that I wished we had done, that I had done, the regret of those wished to have done, the forever living with it now. I try to always remember and think of the goodness and strength that she gave me, gave us, her zest to just go do it... Those are the times that I feel connected, but when I am alone I go back to the pain of missing her, and when I feel presence I realize I am not alone, so please believe that you are not either.



All the good that lives on when the body leaves us is in life’s touched and specifically our the children, the grandchildren that even as of this weekend were talking about birthdays with you both, Christmas with you both…. The memories will always live on if we talk about them enough…



So today, I understand the reflection, I understand the hurt, I understand the why did you leave me here alone, I understand that while today was a beginning not too long ago…. At some point it would become an anniversary of celebration of what that first day together would bring. That day of celebration is today.



Be happy, be thankful you shared time while although brief….. Look at your life today as a celebration of what is rooted on November 18th and how that has bloomed into a garden for all seasons to share in.



Love



Jay



11-18-08

Mom,



I do not know where the year has gone, I just know how much we all miss you. The boys talk about you all of the time and Alex is especially close to you. He has a very hard time knowing that he cannot just reach out and touch you but only in his mind. I miss you, When I finally stop and sit down and just reflect when I really allow my mind to idle I cannot stand knowing that I cannot just hear your voice but only in my heart. I miss our talks on my ride home, I miss our visits just being together, I miss all of the days that I did not spend enough time with you, My missing you will never leave me.



I, we, your family miss you each day.



Halston, Victoria, Mandy, Trevor, all are with you. We could not ask for better guardian than you

love me,

mom, showing dad how to find this site....now lets see how he does!



Love me

Mom, we were all together for your birthday at home woth dad. It is harder each day as we work to understand how this new life works and the tears today are those of fond memories of times with you and of times to still be found together. I struggle with the days of not hearing your voice on the phone, but I am comforted by the voice I hear in my heart. Know how much we all love you and that we work to embrace the next day with an open mind and continue to work toward that next step. We miss you. love me

Mom, Had a great weekend with Dad, Sue and the boys, we all know that you were there with us. Please know how much we miss you. These days have been rough lately, we are all struggling with this new life.



Love, me

Jim & family,Nancy was a special person to many. May the memories always live on,God Bless and we LOVE you!

May God Bless the Family of Nancy Heinen, All of our thoughts and Prayers are with you.

We have heard many wonderful things about Nancy and if her son is any representation of the person she was, she truly was great and will be deeply missed.

To Jim and the Heinen family,



Our thoughts and prayers are with you tomorrow and always. We are so sorry to lose Nancy from this earth, but know she is free from all pain and still with you, her family.



With sympathy and sincere compassion-

Dear Jim:

Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. A very old friend from Zenith.

Anna & Joe Scaccia

I would like to offer my deepest sympathy to the Heinen family, Nancy was always very kind to me and my family. We will miss her.

My deepest sympathy to the Heinen family. Nancy was one of the pioneers to Lake County and will always be my favorite neighbor .

God always takes the best first. Know we love you!

Jim & Pat