Victoria Ruder Obituary

Tory Ruder, age 58, passed away on April 28, 2018. Beloved companion and wife of 35 years of Peter James Phillips; beloved daughter of Celia Larson Marriott and David Sturtevant Ruder; beloved stepdaughter of Susan Small Ruder and of Anne Coulter Tobey (William Tobey); beloved sister of Julia Ruder San Fratello (Charles San Fratello), David Sturtevant Ruder II, John Coulter Ruder (Kate Dalke Ruder), Elizabeth Frankel (Charles Steinhorn), and Bex Wilkinson; loving and beloved aunt of Nathalie Victoria San Fratello, Hayley Wells Johnson, Joseph William DiDonato, Clarity Rose Phillips, Tobias William Phillips, Jack Burnham Ruder, Ashley Patricia Ruder, Wes Coulter Ruder, Quinn Robert Ruder, Sarah Eloise Steinhorn, Maureen Rachel Steinhorn, Travis Sinclair Wilkinson, and Aurora Grace Wilkinson; loving and lasting friend of Noel Barker. Tory was a welcoming and caring friend to so many loved ones that they cannot be counted. Tory was an alumna of the Francis Parker School (1977), Williams College (1981), and the University of Arizona (1989). Tory was the long-time Chief Financial Officer of Community Counseling Centers of Chicago (C4), a North side non-profit agency that provides outreach and care to our neighbors who cannot obtain access to any other services. She was tireless in seeking funds for all our neighbors who would otherwise live without help or hope. Her compassion for people acknowledged no limits. In Tory's honor, a gathering and remembrance will be held Wednesday, May 16, 2018 from 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at Michalik Funeral Home, 1056 W. Chicago Ave., Chicago, IL 60642. In lieu of flowers, please give your donations to Community Counseling Centers of Chicago, C4Chicago.org. For further information 312-421-0936 or sign guestbook at www.michalikfuneralhome.com.