Michael Ruffolo Obituary

Gone to soon so sad

So very sad

MICHAEL SAID:

HOPE IS A GIFT WE GIVE OUR SELVES, AND IT REMAINS WHEN ALL ELSE IS GONE!!! I MISS HIM MORE EVERY DAY HE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. THE LOVE WE SHARED WAS DEEPER THEN ANYONE ELSE COULD EVER UNDERSTAND OR COMPREHENED. HE WAS A WONDERFUL FATHER AND AN EVEN MORE WONDERFUL HUSBAND. HE LIVED EVERYDAY TO PROVIDE HIS FAMILY WITH ALL THAT HE COULD, NO MATTER WHAT IT TOOK HE GOT IT FOR US. I WILL DO MY BEST TO CONTINUE THAT FOR OUR CHILDREN. JORDAN AND ALEXIS WILL ALWAYS BE TOLD HOW MUCH THERE FATHER LOVED THEM WITH ALL HIS HEART!!! MICHAEL I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AS LONG AS I LIVE! LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER LISA XOXO

To: Everyone



There is an old saying..."He who controls the past, commands the future...He who commands the future conquers the past..."

Today, I sometimes wish that I could control the past. On Feb. 25th, 2002, I would then make sure Michael would have never drove to work. He would then be here today.



But, I don't control the past. Which has me feel as if my future is not commandable. The saying had me very upset at everything happening today. Then, there is a saying that says..."Just close your eyes, let your soul guide you...Listen to the music, as the spirits find you..." It was then I realized that it is not God who will heal the wounds. There is no one person or God who can change what happens in life. BUT, by closing my eyes and allowing my inner soul guide me. I will feel the power of my soul bring the spirit within me out and have the music of life find me. The music will only then play the tunes that will lead me to inner peace and strength to conquer life's challenges. I will only then have more balance and be focused. It will then be Michael's memories that will have him live on.



I love my brother deeply. I miss him badly. I only wish to have him back. But now he is carried in my heart and soul through memories. So when I listen to the music...I feel Michael lives on forever...



Carl

To My dear niece and children There is so much to say But the only word that comes to mind is Love the love I feel for you all and the Love that Mike gave us all I will always remmber the big kiss he would give me and say hi its my favorite Aunt Kitty and if I close my eyes I can still hear him say it. thank you Mike for all your love you will always be my favorite.He is up there Watching us and saying love you. I love you too Mike.

Mike,

I will never forget what you told me...that you where proud of me. I will never stop making you proud. I will never forget how much fun we had when we were kids. You always picked on me. Remember that I will always be your "pea". I took your place in the in the circle. I love you Mike always and forever...



your baby sister,

juliana "pea" ruffolo

Lisa, Jay, and Lexi,



You have all been in my heart since the day we met. The trust that you have put in me, has ment the world to me. The friendship I had with Mike will always be unmatched. He was funny and very charismatic. You couldn't help but lauph at his jokes, and join in with his contagious lauph. The devotion he had for his children was very admirable, if only one person could learn from his presence as a father, it would be tremendous. Lisa, you are the most loyal, devoted, and loving wife, that I have had the pleasure of knowing, if I am 1/2 the wife you have been to Mike, I couldn't ask for more. we love you all so dearly, and will keep you in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers.



Love,

Robin, Alex, Cayme, & Joey

Dear Carla and all of Mike's loved ones,

Marc & I were at OPH one nite when he spotted the obit posted on the board. Neither of us could believe it was him. (no one called me to tell me earlier)and we found out after all the services were passed.

It was a shock to us all. Phil was in disbelief as well. On the way home that nite, Marc reminisced about Mike. Although Marc is 19, he remembers the times when he was in Kdg. and 1st. grade. How Mike was always the jokester trying to make Marc laugh. Or the time Mike and Carl started throwing him in the dumpster @ st. Joe's after we went to see one of the soccer games. we remember bringing him a box of Lucky charms when only he came over to visit and how Bro. Peter yelled @ Mike when he took Marc in the bleachers for jokin' around at Carl's C-mas Cantata one year.

I could go on and on. My most heartfelt sympathy to you, Carl, his wife and precious children.

I am so very,very sorry for your profound loss.



with deepest sympathies,

Phil, Carole & Marc Murawski

Michael,

Before Joey was born Carl and I struggled to figure out who was going to hold him first. We figured that we would just let it happen. Since Jackie was with us the whole time, we half figured it would be her. But Joey had complications, and landed in the NICU. Many people came and went. They talked to him, they touched him, but they could not hold him. The day the nurses finally told us he was healthy enough to pick up, you were there. You were first. What a twist of fate that would allow that to happen; that would give us the comfort now in knowing how proud you were of that. I wish that I could carry on that tradition for Carl and my future children. Since I can't, Mike, I promise you one thing. I will have more children. And Carl I will teach them what you believed about family. We will teach them that sometimes, your brother (or sister) is all you've got.

I see the pain in Lisa's eyes and my heart goes out to her, but I know that you would tell her that she can find the strength to go on, in fact, you would probably yell it at her.

And I feel Carl's pain, because I love him so much, and I think that you would tell him that now he has to tell people all about you, who you were and what you believed, even if he thought it was a crock. And my pain, well, my pain is comforted in knowing that I have a job to do. I have to keep Lisa and Carl on track. I get to see Jordan and Lexi grow up and become anything they want to be. I get to tell you all about it.

You were buried with the honor you deserved in life, but so seldom got. We kept feeling you saying how proud you would have been. I know you are at peace. You were named after an angel and now you have become one. Keep us safe from harm Michael. Remind us, every once in a while, that you are watching.

I'll see you at the crossroads,

Your sister,

Dawn

TO THOSE I LOVE AND THOSE WHO LOVED ME



WHEN I AM GONE RELEASE ME, LET ME GO I HAVE SO MANY THINGS TO SEE AND DO.YOU MUSTN'T TIE YOURSELF TO ME WITH TEARS, BE HAPPY THAT WE HAD SO MANY YEARS.I GAVE YOU MY LOVE. YOU CAN ONLY GUESS HOW MUCH YOU GAVE ME IN HAPPINESS.I THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE THAT YOU EACH HAVE SHOWN BUT NOWS ITS TIME I TRAVELED ALONE.SO GRIEVE A WHILE FOR ME IF GRIEVE YOU MUST THEN LET YOUR GRIEF BE COMFORTED BY TRUST. ITS ONLY FOR A WHILE THAT WE MUST PART SO BLESS THE MEMORIES WITHIN YOUR HEART.I WON'T BE FAR AWAY, FOR LIFE GOES ON . SO IF YOU NEED ME CALL AND I WILL COME. THOUGH YOU CAN'T SEE OR TOUCH ME. I'LL BE NEAR. AND IF YOU LISTEN WITH ALL YOUR HEART, YOU'LL HEAR ALL MY LOVE AROUND YOU SOFT AND CLEAR. AND THEN, WHEN YOU MUST COME THIS WAY ALONE. I'LL GREET YOU WITH A SMILE AND WELCOME YOU HOME.



YOU WILL BE GREATLY MISSED MICHAEL PAUL RUFFOLO.

Michael-

I grew up with you from the very first day you were born. We shared a bond that could never be broken. We laughed, cried, and even fought as brothers. But in the end, we never lost our love for each other.

You were my only brother, no one can ever replace you. Our hearts shared a strong love. Growing up through all the hard times, I wanted to always be there for you. You struggled with all the negative statements people made about you. I always ensure that they were wrong and knew you would always shine through. You never lost sight of your dreams and most importantly you had gained a wonderful wife and two kids along the way. You always wanted your kids to be with me in case you were not there. I promised you that I would do that. I will fulfill that promise and ensure your two children carry on what you always believed...be yourself, live your life to the fullest, be there for your family, and most importantly never let anyone or anything stop you from pursuing your dreams. You wanted to be an uncle so badly in order to have our children be as close as we are. I finally fulfilled that dream for you on Dec. 8, 01. I saw how very proud you were when you were the first one to hold him. While shedding a tear, you looked at me and thanked me for making him so happy and proud. Joseph will still grow with your memories as an Uncle who will always be in my son's heart. I am always proud that you were and always will be my blood-brother...thank you for being who you are...you live in my heart forever and ever...I Love you, Mikey.



Your Older Blood Brother (Forever),

Carl (proud Uncle)

Dear Carla and Lisa,

Our deepest condolences are with you at this time of sorrow. I never had the pleasure of meeting Mike, but feel like I know him through all the stories I've heard from Tony and Karen. I know Tony thinks of him often and has many childhood memories of him.

Our thoughts are with you.......



Audrey and Tony

TO ALL OF MICHAELS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL DAY, THAT SUNDAY AFTERNOON IT WAS 60 DEGREES AND ALL THE BIKE LOVERS WERE OUT ENJOYING THEMSELVES SOAKING UP THAT WARM DAY.

I TRAVELED DOWN ROSELLE ROAD THAT AFTERNOON ALONG SIDE MICHAEL. I REMEMBER HIM AND I HOW HAPPY HE LOOKED. I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T KNOW MIKE - HE WAS SO VERY HAPPY, ENJOYING A CELEBRATING LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST - THAT I COULD SEE IN OUR BREIF ENCOUNTER THAT SUNDAY AFTERNOON. AS A MOTHER OF TWO, I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND YOUR CHILDRENS LOSS.

MAY GOD, FAMILY, AND FRIENDS SUPPORT YOU THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I AM SOOOO SORRY.

GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU

DEBBIE SANTANGELO

With my deepest sympathy for the family of Michael. I will always treasure your memory as childhood friends and will always remember you in my thoughts. May your soul have a wonderful journey. My sincerest sympathy...Olivia

LISA,JORDAN AND BABY LEXI

DADDY WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU WHEN EVER YOU NEED HIM JUST CALL HIM AND HE WILL ANSWER YOU.HE WAS LOVED FOR HIS JOKES AND FRIENDLY PLAY WAS THE BEST SOCCER COACH THAT YOU COULD HAVE AND A DEAR AND LOVING HUSBAND WE WILL MISS HIM GREATLY. I LOVE YOU ALL AND WILL BE THERE FOR YOU FOREVER. MIKE I'M SORRY FORGIVE ME . I LOVE YOU .

Love the Crawford Family

Lisa,



I had only met Mike a couple of times. I was quite shocked when Liza called me on Tuesday morning and told me about this horrible thing.

I pray that you and your kids will get through this very tough time with grace.

From all the entries that I read, he was a special guy and you have a great deal of family and friends to help you deal with this.



GOD BLESS YOU, JORDAN, AND ALEXIS and the rest of your families.



Amy Fawkes (Liza Crawford's friend)

MICHAEL WAS MY LIFE I LOVED HIM SO MUCH I WILL NEVER FORGET ANY MOMENT I SPENT WITH HIM. HE WAS SO HAPPY THE NIGHT BEFORE I WILL TREASURE THAT AS LONG AS I LIVE!! HE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN HIS KIDS REMIND ME SO MUCH OF HIM.

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE!!

ALWAYS AND FOREVER HE WILL BE MY SUNSHINE!!

i love you. xoxo, daddy ruffolo

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you are my best-friend

For the family of Michael and the children of Michael...I'm joyed by having the experience of knowing Michael. His soul touched eveyone he met in his life journey on this earth and know that he had a reason for being born and his death is not in vain, for his soul will always be with you. ...For even though I'm not here in body, know that I am always the soul that whispers in your ear. My sincere condolences. I will always have Michael in my thoughts and heart. Candiss and Frank

Carla, our prayers are with you and your family, and also Michael's family. May my "GODCHILD" rest in peace.

Our deepest sympathies to the Ruffolo/Aulet family. Mike was like my little brother and he will be deeply missed. We'll meet again bro....

Carla and Family



I am sorry for your loss. I was shocked when I found out. Our Hearts go out to you and your family.

CARLA..I'm very sorry about Mike, I can't express my deepest sorrow in words. My prayers with you and family.

Lisa & Family



We are so sorry for your Loss. I met your husband a couple of time's. He was Adina's Soccer Coach and was great with all the kids. He was a very kind man. Great Dad and Loving Husband. You are in our Prayer's The Madrid Family (lisa's sister)

oops Carla sorry about that i was crying..

My Dear Carla-Mea,

My Hearts goes out to you.I know what it's like to loss a son,but my

loss is nothing compared to the loss of your Michael.

There are no words that I can say that will help ease the pain and tears.

Just know that I am here for you and your family.

We now have to Angels in heaven by

the name of Michael to watch over us.

You were there for me when I loss my

Michael. I hope now I can be there

for you.

As a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen to all your wonderful memories.



All my Love.

Peg

To Cara and Family



I'm so sorry for your loss

I have known mike for 15+years.

he was not just a friend he was family. mike was a great soccer player has a kid and a great father, husband, brother, son, friend, he will be missed. mike will have a very special place in my heart!!

Carla, Lisa and family,

My prayers are with you during this diffucult time. May God's love and the wonderful memories of Michael live in your hearts and sustain you.

To All Members of Michael's Immediate and Extended Family:



I know that no words I could express at this time would help ease your pain and heartache. I just want you all to know that my heart, my love, and my prayers go out to each and every one of you.

Anything I can do to help, please don't hesitate to ask.



All my love,

Aunt Carol.

To Carla and her family,

Thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this sorrowful time.

May God comfort you with His love and the Michael's love continue on in your hearts.

Diane

Dear Lisa,

I am so sorry for your loss.

I was shocked when I found out.

My heart goes out to you and your

children. I have known Michael since

he was a kid.

Please be strong for yourself and those wonderful children that you and Michael were able to make

He will be your own personal angel in Heaven now.

He will protect and keep you all safe.

Love always,

Peg,George, Lauren and Georgie Pellegrino

Father Joel told us of your loss last night at our Liturgy Planning Meeting. My prayers are for your your family as he finds a new home with Jesus.

Lisa,

You and your children are in ou prayers. Mere words cannot express the sorrow we have for yours and Michael's families. We am so very sorry.



Love

Bob, Lisa, William, and Tyler Haney

Dear Lisa,

This is shocking news. Words cannot express how we feel. Mike was a great guy, especially with kids. We will never forget him. His picture is in our son (Sean's) bedroom. Be strong for your kids. Love, The McCauleys.

Dear Coach Mike,

Your the best coach I've ever had. Eventhough I didn't know you for very long, you taught me alot about soccer and you are very loving. I will miss you very much. Love, Sean McCauley. (peewee soccer spring 2001).