Margurita Staniec Obituary

Mom, not a day goes by that you are not thought of or talked about. Still cannot believe you are gone. Jori got married a week ago. I couldn't attend, Dr.'s orders, but I know both of us were there in her heart. Missing you always. Love you forever.

Missing you still. Love you.

Mom, missing you so much. Wish you were here. Say hi to everyone for me and stop by once in awhile and give me a sign ok? Please?

Mom, just wanted to say Merry Christmas! It's never the same without you. Thinking of you . missing you, and wishing you were here. Say hello to Dad and Gary and Warren and Tammy and Bonnie and all the others. Sending Great Big Christmas love to all of you.

Mom, if you were here today we would be celebrating your birthday with you. Well, we will still celebrate your memory and remember all the awesome times we had together. Wishing so much that you were still here and remembering how much you impacted so many peoples lives. You were an angel on earth and now you are an angel in heaven. Please say hi to all the others and together hoping you will all celebrate. Please continue to watch over us and push us through the everyday as you did when you were here. Love you tons....

Priscilla

Mom, The 4th quarter has come to be with you now. It is so sad. Another of us gone and the baby at that. I do hope he finds you all and that you all look for him. Hug him for me and ask him to hug all of you also. It is Christmas again and not ignoring the beauty of the season and for what it stands but missing all of you. We seem to be developing a pattern of taking off during the holiday season. Wish you were all here. Missing you so much still and thinking of you often. Merry Christmas. Love you...

Mom, missing you so much. This time of year was always a favorite of yours. You always made it very special. Hope you and Dad and all the family up there were able to commune for the holidays. Missing you.....Merry Christmas!

Dear Mom, This will be my second attempt at writing today as all of what I just wrote disappeared. A short story... I sold one of Dad's camera's to a man who lives in Washington State. He actually originated in the Chicago area. I apparently left some film in the camera and he was kind enough to develop it and send me the photos. It is YOU mom and me. You appear to be with child which would be Gary. It must be my first birthday. The man marveled at the preserved photos that have been waiting 59 years to be developed. You look beautiful as you always did. I miss you so much and think of your extra this week as it is when you went away but also because it is holiday time and this was one of your favorite holidays for sure. We will miss you. Linda has been helping me prepare for the upcoming family get together. In fact, Linda helps me with everything as my capabilities have been compromised. It appears that all the kids from as far as California and Texas and from here are coming home for this holiday. It will be extra special as I believe it will be the end of a tradition which will be sad amongst the happiness of the season. Wishing you could join us and then somewhere inside of me I know you will always be here with us.

Me again. Making some of the rounds. Warren called out to me today so while here I wanted to passover and let you know how missed you are. Every day it seems someone, if not me, reminds me of how very special you were. So much fun we had with you. We were just telling a story about you the other day to Marla's mom. Linda and I shared how you were always ready to go. It did not matter if it was the middle of the night. If we said we were going, you were ready to join us. Actually, we wouldn't of had it any other way. You were so much fun. How blessed were we to have such an incredible mother like you. Always teaching us without even instructing. Just being around you was a learning experience. I miss you every day. I remember when Uncle used to tell me as many as 40 years after Grandma went away how much he still missed her. Now I get it. I am attaching a photo from one of our fun times. Remember the Thanksgiving that we told everyone they had to come dressed up in the manner of dress as the first Thanksgiving. Linda, you and I were Pilgrims. We had a blast. We could have so much fun with nothing. Something we also learned from you. That fun did not always require a trip around the world or far away. The experience could just as fun if we used our imaginations and just appreciated what we had instead of wanting for what we didn't. I guess that is making the best of the situation you are in. I don't know.. it is not like we did not do things but the things we did perhaps paled in comparison to what others might have done for vacation or for fun. Yet, we never stopped laughing when we were together. Even if some of my laughing was just laughing at you and Linda laughing at nothing. As Warren would say, sometimes you must have just been thinking funny things cuz you would just look at each other and crack up. Miss you terribly. Think of you often and will LOVE YOU forever!

Today is the day you went away. Seems like yesterday still. Missing you every minute of every hour of every day. Lots going on here. All of which I am sure you are aware. Just wanted to let you know that you are never far from my mind. I will miss you and love you forever. You are the BEST!!!

Oh Mom,

I am sorry I am late writing this note but I wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday! Had you been here we would have celebrated! I tried to write yesterday for your birthday but the internet has been down in the nursing home I am in for the past couple of days. Yes I said nursing home. For rehab. My back went out again but this time it did not go in and after 7 days the Doc told me to go to the hospital and after 7 days there they shipped me here. Anyway, everything will be better for me. I think of you everyday. I wish you would come and talk to me. I know you told me you would not come back once you left but Mom, I really wish you would. And while I am thinking of it... Happy Belated Mothers Day. Sounds funny cuz for me everyday with you was Mother's Day. I miss you so much. So many times your name or something you said or did comes up. Mostly me and Linda talking about old times but Gary and Ted have thrown in a memory or two also. It's not the same without you but you already know that. I hope you were with Dad for your Birthday, and by now Bonnie has found you. There are so many of you gone and so few of us left. So many stories to share. Again, wish you were here. I loved you yesterday, I love you today and I will love you tomorrow.

Wow,

It is hard to believe it will be two years on Saturday. They say time flies. Not so much. Surely lots of stuff has happened but not without the reminder that you are missing. For sure Bonnie has been to see you by now and this week another sad news week. Uncle Chester's Carol lost her first born. Mary was only 36 years old. Her wake is tomorrow and the funeral is on Friday. So sad. Too young. But then I think 91 is to young. Seriously, keep a look out for her. She will probably go to Auntie Stella and Uncle Chester so look for her there. We just had Thanksgiving and invited a couple of people to join us. Cousin Kathleen who lost her husband Bob this year and her son Robert the other year and Cousin Joanne who has been battling treatments for illness. Actually, Kathleen was also in the hospital this year. We asked Doriene, Kristin and Robert to join us also as the holiday was on the heels of Bonnie leaving and it just seemed that everyone was missing something or someone. It turned out okay and there was never a conversational lull. Teddy is hanging in and Gary is doing so much better after a recent hospitalization. Getting stronger every day. Linda lost her job with Dr. G but is still hanging on with Dr. B however she is still looking to supplement her income for the losses incurred. As for me, I am being bad. I have not been to the pool to exercise and do not foresee that happening before next year for sure. I miss it but just not able to fit it in right now. Your house is for sale without much promise in the next 60 days with the holidays, the cold weather and of course the already declined market. I miss you so much. I miss your laugh but I can still hear it. I miss talking to you. Yes that is what I said. I know you are really laughing now cuz how many times did you tell us we weren't talking? I especially miss tucking you in and talking before bedtime. I miss watching tv in the wee hours when we had to do the treatments and I miss so much more. I know you told me you would never never come back after you were gone like I told you others had done. Please rethink that statement. I would love to hear from you. I miss you and will always love you.

Hi,

Me again. I can't even read your obit but I saw the 91 and kept going. Hard to believe that you were 91 when you left. Maybe chronologically but mentally you were 35. Today would be your birthday. You would have been 93. Linda and I will celebrate for you, wth you. First we will go to the place where we last left you and Dad. Then to church and then they are dedicating a garden at the church but we will pretend it is for your birthday. We are working on trying to have a garage sale over here. The first of at least two and possibly three. With all of our junk we could have one a week for a year. We wish you were here. We have been doing a lot of laughing which you loved to do. We talk about you a lot and refer to the way you said and did things often. You know what going on around here. If at all possible please put in a few good words so that everyone gets better. Happy Birthday Mom! Wish you were here. I miss you nd love you!

Mom,

Mother's Day or should I say the Hallmark Mother's Day Reminder is just around the corner. Funny, for me, with you, every day was Mother's Day! I think of you constantly, quote you daily, pray for you all the time and still wish you were here. We all miss you and often share rememberances. You must know your name comes up far more than you would think. Missing you so much. Happy Mother's Day today and EVERY DAY! Wish you were here!

Mom,

I can not believe it is almost a year since you left this place. Time really does fly. No matter the amount of time you are sadly missed every minute of every hour of every day. We just had our first Thanksgiving Dinner without you at the table. That was different. Bonnie did not attend. So it was Linda and I, the brothers and kids. Very different, very vacant, and very fast. It was over before you even knew it was happening. Everyone had somewhere else to go. It worked out okay. Missing you so much...

Mom,

Today is Dorothy's birthday. I went to write a little note to remember her and thought that I have not been here for a long time. I wonder if you two have crossed paths yet. I have this vision of Warren taking you both to heaven's casino's. (Chuckling to myself.) I remember fondly the August before you both left when Linda, You, Dorothy and I went up to Wisconsin for dinner on the water. Remember the chef? What fun we had that day!

As you know, I am pretty sure, I have been under the weather but it seems the storm is passing again and the sun is drying up the rain. (thank you itsy bitsy spider.

I miss you so much. So many days I find myself talking to you as if you were right here. You always will be in my heart. Love you,

Priscilla

Hello

Love, Linda

What beautiful words . And what a great woman your grandma , mom , sister ,friend was............ She touched us all in some way . Cilla and family thank you for sharing your mom with us all . Margurita give my mom and grandmas a hug from me and pass on the princess wave to us all .

Mom,

The holidays are not the same without you. Especially the Christmas holiday as it was you who instituted it for us as children. Oh sure we had the religious side but we also had the other as you sewed the very first Santa suit and donned it yourself to surprise us with a visit on Christmas Eve. That family tradition still lives on with us and even this year in your absence Santa came and paid a visit.

All of your grandchildren took part in your send-off and many have asked for the copy of the words of rememberance that Caitlin shared at the funeral mass this past week. I have copied them here for all to see.

Caitlin's memories....

I didn’t know my grandmother as long as more than half the people in this room, but that didn’t stop me from learning many, many things from her.

First I learned to always, always, always smile. I’d like to say this was because my grandmother loved my smiles, but the truth is, she was always trying to set me up with cute waiters… not that I ever complained.

Secondly, I learned to gamble. Ever since I could say the word “lottery”, I’ve been scratching cards left and right. And I’m pretty sure we racked up some nice mileage going to Wisconsin to play the Powerball.

Besides those obviously important life lessons, I truly learned some great qualities. I was taught to win. As an athlete, losing was never on my mind. However, when my grandmother was around, I never, ever, ever lost. My senior year of high school, Granny went to a bunch of my basketball games and my best friend Phylea and I were so excited that she did too. Phylea would run over to Granny at halftime and give her a hug and kiss always. And during warm-ups, when Granny came strolling into the gym… we noticed… and we made sure EVERYONE else noticed too. We told each other in warm-ups that we needed to “Win for Granny!!!” She never saw the two of us lose. If we were to call her our good luck charm, it would be an understatement. She was our guardian, and she always will be.

My grandmother taught me to love and embrace my family, no matter how mad I was at them that day. She would have done anything for her family and she taught me to do the same.

My grandma was born on June 5th, 1918 and was one of six kids, along with Arthur, Victor, Raymond, Esther and Isabella… all of them named after the kings and queens they were. She was married on June 14th, 1941, to the love of her life Ted, and together they had four beautiful children: Ted, Linda, Priscilla and Gary. She loved to be around her family and was always there to make us laugh… and kiss our injuries… and she would always keep us on our feet.

Family meant the world to my grandmother and my grandmother meant the world to my family.

I was taught to speak my mind. I think everyone can agree that my grandmother always spoke her mind. She never beat around the bush and she always got right to the point. I take after her in that way the most. The Grandma sass inside of me will never die.

I was always taught to fight---fight for what I believe in and fight for others. She taught me that. All the days I knew her, I knew her to be strong willed and a fighter. She never lost a battle.

About 5 years ago, my dad adopted this thing where he’d be on the phone and someone would say “goodbye” but he’d always say “hello” back. I’d like to say it’s because he never really wanted to say goodbye. Peter Pan once told me, “Never say goodbye because goodbye means going away and going away means forgetting.”

So, Grandma, you will live in the light of the sun again and dance in the river of life. I’ll know that will never end and you will be forever by my side. I’ll never have to say goodbye. Without you, I don’t know how my life will be, but I believe it’s not goodbye. I will remember you and I will see you again when I rise, because I know and I believe that I will see you in eternity.

My grandmother told me that her funeral shouldn’t be sad – no frowns and absolutely no tears. Instead, it should be a celebration of life. And what a beautiful life –all 91 years, it was. So grandma, mother to some, friend to all, we all miss you ---and HELLO!

Dear Gary and Family - So sorry to hear about your mother. She is now at peace in the Lord's home. May he grant you and yours the strength and love to get through this difficult time.

Dear P and Family,

We're so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. May angels wrap you all in their wings sheilding you and protecting you during this most difficult time.

With love and fondness,

Mom,

Hard to believe that you are not here. You fought a valliant fight and never gave up. Your leadership was the best and so often it involved no words but example. I hated letting you as much as I know you hated going. Gratefully, your suffering was minimal and I do thank God for that. We are coming upon your favorite season and for this reason I wish you could have hung on a little longer. I know you will be with us even though we won't see you. As always, I love you.

Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.