Janet Conant Obituary

Dearest Mom,
It is now eight years and two months and six days since your passing here and journey to our heavenly Jesus and his Father our GOD. It doesn't seem like that much time has gone by. YOU ARE SO MISSED. Many a day I want to cry and say I want my mommy back and cuddly in your lap and talk. Mom You brought so much joy to my life as do my kids that you would be so proud of right now. Chris is now almost married two years and is 30. He is growing in his career so and you would be proud of him. Lindsey has earned that college degree and is a wonderful counselor to troubled teens in NC. Yeah that little one that doctors said would never be where she is today. Medically they cannot explain her healthy recovery. We all know it was by the hand of GOD that healed her. I still live my life thru each of them and yes I have a new set of kids only they are four legged. I have five but then you know that and can see that from heavens gate. I have two wonderful jobs and can say I found my nitch. Working with the two different groups of people I am blessed. Thank you for that. I know you and God had a great hand in that for me.
I so miss my trips to wally world with you and those wonderful slivers. I miss those taco salads, and those banana splits.... nothing taste the same without you "granny".
I just wanted to stop in today and say I love you and miss you higher than the clouds in the sky and deeper than the deep blue see.... Thank you for being my Mother and loving me UNCONDITIONALLY Till I see you again When GOD Decides it is time for me to come home too.... 143 bunny

Mom,
You always had joy in your heart and a sunbeam in your hand. Sunshine echoed in your voice as you would share a rainbow with each of us children and grandchildren..All of that is truly missed to this day.
Last night I went outside to say hello to you and wish you Happy Rebirth Day and the most amazing star was out alone in the sky shining bright as ever. It was if you were speaking to me thru it. It is hard to believe that 4 years have gone by since Chris and I lay on the floor next to your bed that last night, as you made your journey home to GOD. I rmember Norman and Chris stating as you were taken away they could see this twinkling of 3 tiny ( I call tinkerbells) floating side by side to heaven. Your sign to us your Journy has begun and not to worry.
This past week I sat down and wrote to your brothers and sisters to share what was going thru my heart at that time.. I wanted to save it for here in your special book on this date, June 14,2008. Happy Rebirth Day Mom... Happy Flag Day. May you know not even the highest mountain meets the love you had for us and I have for you. Here is the letter I shared with them.

The exact date is blurry, I feel it was in the early '60's your sister and Aunt embarked upon a journey that would take her and her "clan" of five kids to a new adventure states far apart. She would go it alone as a single parent and take on the world that looked down on such an unheard of ...reality. Today it is hard to NOT find a single parent on their own. Not to mention it isn't looked down on. No mater, Mom wasn't into caring what "society" thought. She had five young children that needed and counted on her. That is all that mattered to her.

Here today, I see myself for the last nine years as a single parent of two, one which was on his own in college, therefore raising just one was a chore for me... and I took many a note from Mom doing it with five. I can say my challenge was less in numbers of a joyful miracle as hers... but still a joy. How did she do it... I ask myself at the age of 51. How did she have such patience, knowledge, and still have a smile on her face at the end of the day at the dinner table with us all? I don't know but she did and we never missed a meal or church in the mean time. I would say God was truly her head cheerleader.

Many called it a circus or zoo in our house, but is that not where you take your kids to have fun and be a kid? Is that not where we as adults go to have that chance to be a kid again as well? I get it now; she lived thru us as I do my Christopher and Lindsey. It may have seemed like a zoo to others but I can tell you straight from my heart from her heart she would have had it no other way.

Today I watched a movie back to back of the Lacey "tribe”. It is a true story by a man of his childhood and his five other siblings and a single Mother, Frances Lacey. Some may know this movie as "A Home Of Our Own". The trials and tribulations and the "proud” stance this Mother took to make it with her six children ...you got it.... back in the same time as Mom was with us making a go of it.

I saw so many similar journeys that they took and chapters like ours. In the end, we all had roofs over our heads and food in our stomachs. We Conants and Laceys all grew up to have learned many a lesson in life. As a child we don't see it as clearly as one would now.

Mom got thru it all with us and then began her new chapters with her grandchildren. She ventured with them as well. Teaching them and having fun with them as she did her first five.

Heck at age 60+ her grandkids and this kid learned to kayak from her down the Chattahoochee River there in Georgia when not showing us the tricks to panning for gold or gems. Oh, lets not forget the Cabbage Patch Hospital. In the time of nourishment it was taco salads till our sides hurt. Then that was fixed with ice cream or her famous jelly donut sweet tooth attacks (thank you Wally-world).

All I can say is your sister, my Mother was the most outstanding teacher, Mother, friend, angel that GOD ever gave to my brother and sisters and me. I don't know how I personally can say I deserved such an angel, I am glad I did though. I still have people come to me forty plus years later telling me how they as kids looked up to her. Adults that miss her now as well from her work in the Red Cross to her neighbors from Durham and Fuquay.

I don't know how I get thru each day without her, but I have a strong feeling she has a lot to do with it.

Remember the movie "Angels in the Outfield"? That is your sister. The week she left us to go on her "new" journey... out by the mail box there was a brand new baseball sitting there. The only kids on the block were at the top of the circle where she lived on Hepplewhite and they were not home I remember. All the rest were adults alone. Where did this ball come from? I don't know a kid that would let a brand new ball go so easy. I picked it up and took it as her "personal letter" to us that she made it to HEAVEN. She got her wings. Yes, I still have that baseball to this day. It is a reminder to me of the journeys over the years she took us on and the lessons learned from it and that she has my back.

I want you all to know that you are all as important to me now as she was and still is to me to this day. I know our time together is not what I was hoping for but I hope that soon I can change that. I wish we all lived closer.

You have a wonderful sister in my Mom. You have a great Auntie in her. I have, no, we kids have a wonderful Mom in Janet M. Stoner Conant. May she always be in our hearts as she was and is everyday. May she stop in to tell us all "to take a deep breath" relax as Angie can give testimony on as she wrote to me in the last week.

In closing, I don't know what I will be doing on June 14, 2008 this coming Saturday besides remembering many a fun tell of my life with her.
I do hope that I can find a way to do something for someone as she would do if she were here.
I pray your day will be a blessed one. I know she will be with each one of us that day. If you see a butterfly, feel a tickle on your nose or that kick in the pants, we will know who that is ...saying hello... anyone home?

My heart is like a donut right now. Give me that hole back. I want the whole jelly donut. I want my Mom. God care for her till we all can see her again one day. Until then ....

I love you all. see you soon. I pray.

I had to share this moment with you while it was on my heart and mind.

aoyp and aiyp
Love,
bunny


That is it Mom, my letter to the family. I miss you more and love you deeper than the deep blue sea.. and Higher than the clouds in the sky.

143 always

Auntie, You must be watching over me today, as in the middle of a very busy day everything stopped for me. I was thinking about and remembering you. Thank you for taking the time to be my angel today, for making me slow down and remember what is important in life. My family.

Mom,
Today marked three years since you went to be with Jesus in heaven. They say it gets easier as time goes by but I do not agree. I miss you more and the pain is greater today than ever before. Much has happened sad and good since your passing. The good is Melissa and Keri are about to bless you with two more great granddaughters and Jackie married this year to the young man you met and so liked. Your grandson Austin weds as well and Houston has gone on to do as you and do mission work in Africa. Lindsey has graduated from High School and is off on her way to college in a few months as Christopher still works on his degrees. I wish you were here to walk those days with them as I wish you were here to help me plan my wedding to someone I know you would approve of. Mom, my heart is heavy today. I miss you, I miss my best friend. Your love is felt each breath I take, but would trade it for your touch once again and your laughter as we shop at our favorite stores and eat our favorite slivers of sweets. I finish this day knowing that another Godly woman passed away and joined you and God today. Ruth Graham. On this Flag Day, Your day.. I give thanks to God once again for blessing me with you as my Mother and friend. I miss you dearly until we met again. Your loving daughter forever and ever.... as the roses bloom and the butterflies fly and the clouds breeze by... My memories are forever shining thru of you.
I love you and miss you.. Bunny

Granny-

This has been a very tough year for me since your passing. We all miss you soooo much and really wish that you were here with us. I just wanted to let you know how special you were to me! I remember when I was young coming to see you in Orlando and spending many days at Disney World. Then throughout the years you just kept getting closer and closer. I never spent enough time with you but I cherished every single minute that I did have with you and wish I had many many more with you. You are such a special woman in my life and such an inspiring person to everyone else in the world. I also wanted to let you know that Madison is doing great and she is so beautiful but I know you can see her. She is growing so fast. I have those very special pictures of her laying on your bed the last couple of days that we had with you and I hold those so dear to my heart. I will make sure she will always know who her Granny is.

I love you so much and I miss you so much! I know you are watching over us here. Trust me we all need you but we are doing okay and can't wait to see you again!

Love you lots and lots and lots,

Your oldest grandbaby-

Melissa

Mom,

I know that on this Easter Day you are having a wonderful celebration. Know that you are in our constant thoughts and prayers here. You are truly missed but remembered in the sweetest of ways. My childhood Easters were the best. I still remember the goose egg we found weeks later. There was always at least one egg that was never found till later. Our Easter outfits always matching with our Easter bonnets. We never missed an Easter Sunday at church and always came home with our pansies in a cup. You made certain that my kids got that same chance with the fun egg coloring and hunts. Thank you for those days. Thank you for those memories

Love you always,

Your daughter Bunny

Your grand children

Christopher and Lindsey

What a blessing you must have been to your family! I weep as I read the tributes left by friends and family of an aunt I wish I'd known. You obviously touched many lives. My prayers are with the family that continues to mourn your loss, and my hope is in Christ that they'll one day be with you again.

Sincerely,

Tamey, Joe, Kieran, Logan, and Mackenzie Zollner

Although we never met, I feel as though we have. From the stories that I have heard from Mom you were an amazing person and left behind an incredible legacy. I only hope that I have touched and will touch the lives of my family, friends and those I am yet to meet throughout my life in the manner in which you did. You obviously had a huge impact on the lives around you whether is was directly or indircetly, that is a fabulous tribute to you.



Paul, Cindy, Emarie and Samantha Synodis

Auntie,

So which star are you in the night sky?

I remember your visits like they where yesterday. Your great big smile, silly cowboy hat and contegous laugh. You gave so much of yourself not only to your family, but your community as well through the Red Cross. Auntie, you made an ever lasting impression on everyone you met. Those of us who knew you are forever blessed.

Together now we mourn the loss and remember all the fun. May the angels wings carry you to higher ground Loves, eternal peace.



We love and miss you.

The Huckaby's

Bill, Angie, Brandon, Cameron, Elyssa, Brianna and Amanda

I will never forget the kindness provided to me and my family more than 30 years ago. My best friend's mother welcomed us into her home, opened her heart and shared her love and family with us. I will be eternally grateful for the friendship which was developed. God Bless you and your family.

I would like to take the time to thank those of you that have sent either cards, flowers or signed several guest books expressing your condolences and memories. Mom was an important person to all of us, and we know that she touched many a life in one special way or another. This is a chance for me to thank those I know or don't know for your kind thoughts and words to her family at this time. We miss her dearly. May you each have an angel in your pocket and an angel on your pillow. Thank-you. Bunny and Christopher and Lindsey. Tickles too!

Mother,

It has been a year and a month now since we found out that you would be riding past the biggest "bump in the road" as you put, it when we found out you had this "pebble" in your brain. When I was with you at the doctor the day of the first visit I promised you then and did go the distance with you thru out this journey. I go back from the time as a child thru my adult life to now, and you still are teaching me so much about life and those around me. You brought back a part of our family that I missed out so much on early on. Your parting gift to me was your sisters and brothers that have be your ripple in the water here for me. I will never forget the day Aunt Joyce and I came back from making your final journey arrangements and for some reason you guided me to the gallery where I stopped right in my tracks and called to Aunt Joyce. Look there are the horses Mom told us about. Right there we knew what each horse represented. You were crossing over. You had made it to heaven with God. Oh how you are missed here. Christopher and Lindsey miss you dearly as well. Daddy still hurts for your passing.It has effected him greatly. They too wish you could still be here but understand God needed someone to help pour out the rain. Someone to paint the sky those bright colors at sunset. His garden of flowers needed your special touch and the rainbows need a new paint job. Your work here was so needed,but when the world was hit in with the disasters that we had this past year,only your loving, guiding hand could do what you do best with your hugs and kisses from above. You have always been my hero. You have been not just my Mother, but my dearest best friend that loved me for me. You saved my life not long ago, as you did when I was born and was ill. Did you see and hear Norman and I sing to you as you left us? The song YOU LIFT ME UP, wraps up everything about you to me and my kids. You were always there for us. I feel you now. As Easter approaches I envy you. The most glorious holiday of them all you will share with Jesus and God. The celebration you will experience. Oh if we will all be as lucky as you. I will never forget the last six months I had with you. I took great joy in caring for you. I just wish I had been given more time. I know you are caring for my son Matthew. Teaching him all as you did for us here. Hug him and give him kisses for me. Kisses. Oh the kisses.... I will cherish those last kisses you gave to me the day you parted from us here. It was your goodbye in place of your words. Until we meet again. Know that I love you my heart aches for you. I miss your laugh, our shopping sprees. I miss getting you your slivers of sweet cake. The kids love and miss you too. You taught them so much. You are my guardian angel. You are my angel in my pocket. You are my angel on my pillow. Until I get to feel your hugs again. I will always always Love you. Your loving daughter,Bunny; Grandson Christopher and Granddaughter Lindsey

What a wonderful message of hope your sister shared in her passing. My thoughts are with you now, and in the days to come.

A tribute to my beloved sister who passed away on June 14, 2004.



As I sat next to you the last four days of your life, I watched your children and grandchildren file in one by one and pay tribute to you. There was one common theme in their tribute….”granny you taught me everything I know, you are why I am who I am today”. How could anything possibly top that kind of tribute? I have never seen such love by a family.



Your birthday was this week and you would have been 71. You fought a courageous battle against a demon greater than what you could give but your presence is felt everyday. In your last days you spoke about seeing horses, and now for all of us left, horses have a greater meaning to us. We have seen the three horses you saw as portrayed by Nancy Glazier’s “Primary Colors”. The first horse – blue in color, has fear in his eyes as you told us you were scared in this journey you were taking. The second horse, brown in color is saying goodbye with his eyes. When I asked you what color the horse was that you saw, you said brown. I now know you were saying good-bye. The third horse – yellow in color is walking on towards what looks like a structure of some type. As you look just beyond the yellow horse there is a silhouette of a man in a robe with his arms open. We now know you went through the gates of heaven.



Since your passing we have had several signs that you are doing well and enjoying heaven. Until we all meet again just know that I will embrace your wonderful family as my own until we are all together as a family again.



Your sister, Joyce

Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. May you feel peace in your heart knowing Janet is in a better place. We love you.

We were so sorry to hear about your loss. May your sister have met with the Lord and have better days. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with all your family. Sharing in your sorrow more than words can ever say.

"Our death is not an end if we can live on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us, our bodies are only wilted leaves on the tree of life." Quote by Albert Einstein

We are so sorry for your loss. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad and difficult time.

Our prayers are with you and your family members. You were a person who put other people in all your thoughts and deeds. God Bless and you will be remembered by those whos life you have touched.

Janet's love and kindness will be missed by everyone who knew and loved her. My thoughts and prayers are with those who are already missing her.

In thoughts and cherished memories your loved one is always with you. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of loss.



Dixie

Our prayers are with you and your family. May she rest in peace.

Marion & Mel