Barbara Terhorst Obituary

I was a flower girl at Barbara and Bernie´s wedding. I was 5. My family lived in an apartment above the Finners in The Bronx, NY. I remember her bubbly, infectious, kind personality and she was a great inspiration to me growing up.

Barbara gladly supported my 9 year old´s door to door Christmas wreath selling. We lived in the same neighborhood. She somehow found the strength to open her door and great us to receive the wreath, even though it was the day of her daughter´s passing. Such a strong, intelligent, loving, amazing person.

I met Barbara as a hospital employee/servant - visiting her when she was a patient to cater to her nutrition/meal needs. I was first stricken by her name "Barbara Mary" since my mother´s name was "Mary Barbara". Barbara and I INSTANTLY connected and resonated on many levels. When I told her my mother´s name, and that she only lived 30 years (died in an auto accident) the year before my 32-year-old law enforcement father died on-duty, she poured out her personal stories of losses unimaginable (especially her husband of 12 years who also died on-duty as a US Marine pilot when their 6th child was soon coming). We shared how immensely and intensely purposed our lives have been, pouring ourselves out to many in need so reflexively that it´s almost surreal. She told me "you´re one of Christ´s cross bearers just like I am!" We were instant soulmates with 30 years of age difference - she felt more like my spiritual mother than my own young mother did 50+ years ago (my mother was mentally ill most of my youth)! I´m grateful Barbara now soars in God´s glorious presence & space - will hopefully hug her in glory when my life callings are finished - I love you, Barbara Mary!

I first met Barbara at the most memorable of Halloween parties, held by her family.
Despite the tremendous losses she had experienced ~ or perhaps as a result of them ~ Barbara had a rare mix of intensity, irony, humor, and a deep appreciation of life.
Many blessings to you always beautiful soul.

RIP Sweet lady, you will be missed