Virginia Terranova Obituary

Dear Mom,

I really don't know where to start. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of you. Everytime my phone rings I think it's you because we used to talk ten times a day. I would like to tell you that I'm ok, but I'm not. I feel angry that god took you from us. I still don't understand why. People say that god takes the good ones because he needs them up there, but we still needed you here. Things will never be the same without you, but the only thing that helps me get through this is to know that you wont suffer. I knew things weren't right from that day when I was by the house and you looked at me and said "see,I'm back to normal" , like you were trying to reassure me that everything was alright, but that was you always trying to look out for us first. Tom looks like he's so lost without you. Paulie , Camille and I don't know what to say to eachother. Everything is just not the same. I worry about Tom alot. He's trying to be just like you when it comes to us kids. I went to cleveland this last weekend for a hockey tournament and Tom made sure I gave him all my information, and made me call him when I got there and call him when I got home, and of course I called him about five times in between so he wouldn't worry. We came in second place, I asked you for some help because that other team was tough, but i'm sure you did all you can do. Paulie and Camille are the same as me, just getting by. The kids are all getting big. Camille had cake for Dylan and Paulie's birthday a couple of weeks ago. Paulie got the short end again with a cake, we all laughed when Camille gave him a cupcake with a candle. Tom had a long talk with Paulie , Camille and I and it was hard for all of us. You don't have to worry about us not being a family because we are all looking out for eachother. Camille and I had a long talk after Tom had talked to us and it felt good to get some of our feelings out in the open. After you left I spent the first week in bed. I just couldn't get up. I would lie to Tom and anyone else that called and tell them I was working, but that was the farthest from the truth. I physically could not function and I really didn't care if I lived or died. Then i thought that you would want me to get up and start working and get on with my life. I don't know if I'll ever really get on with my life but i'm trying to keep busy with work and hockey. Camille was having the same problems, where she couldn't get out of bed either. I told her she needs to function for the boys. She said that Connor even missed three days of school because she just couldn't get out of bed and that her and the kids would stay in their pajamas all day. She is doing a little better now, but she need to go to her doctor for some help, I did. Paulie just keeps working, and you know Paulie, he never really reveals his feelings, but Paulie is Paulie.

I'm sorry I left you in the hospital to go to hockey. I should have never left you, even though I know you would have wanted me to do what I have to do, I shouldn't have left and I hope you can forgive me. I worry so much about Tom, Paulie and Camille everyday. I would give up everything I have just to know that they would be alright. It's so hard to see Tom breakdown in front of us. He's always been so strong in front of us. He misses you so much mom, as do we. He still has not touched one thing of yours in the house. It's as if your still there, but then again to us you will always be there.

We are all trying to stay busy. Camille will make dinner a couple times a week by the house and Tom goes to work and I even brought him to one of my games and brought him on the bench. He thinks I'm crazy for coaching because my kids are such animals, but it keeps me busy and it's one of the few things that I trully love to do. I miss you so much mom. I really haven't had my big breakdown yet. Whenever I feel it coming I think about something else, and then I feel guilty because I'm not thinking of you. You were my best friend, the only one I could come to no matter what. I feel very lost and lonely and empty without you. I know I didn't always do the right thing and I didn't always do things the way you wanted, but I hope I was a good son and all I ever wanted was for you to be proud of me. I know I was a momma's boy, but I was proud of that.

There is so much more I want to say, but you already know. I just thank god that I got to talk to you that day before you went to surgery and that I got to tell you I Love You. Give Grandma a kiss and a hug for me and tell her I miss her and I love her.

I Love You Always,

Your Son

DEAR VIRGINIA,

I HAVE A REGRET. WHENEVER I'D PULL INTO THE PARKING LOT AT WORK AND SEE YOUR CAR I'D KNOW THERE WOULD BE A SPARKLING ALWAYS READY SMILE IN THE BUILDING AND THE DAY WOULD BEGIN ON A MORE POSITIVE NOTE. SOMETIMES EVEN SEE YOU, AND WE'D WALK IN TOGETHER MAKING FOR AN EVEN MORE PLEASANT DAY. SO MY REGRET IS THAT I ALWAYS TOOK YOUR BEING AROUND FOR GRANTED, NEVER TELLING YOU THAT YOU MAKED MY DAY MORE SPECIAL. THAN AGAIN, MAYBE YOU KNEW, BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH WE'VE ONLY KNOWN EACH OTHER A FEW SHORT YEARS-I THINK WE KIND OF BONDED, BUT THEN MAYBE THAT WAS JUST YOU AND YOUR SPECIAL WAY OF MAKING EVERYONE FEEL YOUR WARMTH. YOUR SORELY MISSED AND WILL ALWAYS BE REMEMBERED WITH SPECIAL FONDNESS. SECIAL PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS TO YOUR FAMILY.

LOVE MARY

Dear Auntie Virginia... I guess that I just feel compelled to write to you again before the legacy goes offline....I still cannot believe that u are really gone...I find myself remembering so many fond memories .... when you would sneeze like a little tit mouse(so cute) , when you would surprise me with baked ziti or polenta with sauce and sausage....when you told me everytime you were going to be a grandma...and how much you loved the grandbabies...when Connor went poo poo all over Marshall Fields and Jimmy had to try and catch up with him...how proud you were of your family and friends...I miss our conversations and sharing of so many things...I have had nights where I dream of you and days where I find myself just weeping and weeping...I miss you so much Virg...my first day back at work without having you there was the worst-in fact, the whole first week back was nonproductive...you lived everyday to the fullest-giving, caretaking, cooking, traveling, cleaning, working, and most of all loving , loving, loving - you did everything with love - God looked on you and said that you were the BEST ROLE MODEL on how each of us should live our lives EVERY day..One comforting feeling that I am sure all of those that loved you feel , is that you dont have to suffer...I love you FOREVER Auntie Virginia ...and I miss you terribly All my love, Joelle x o x o x o x o

Dear Auntie,

I still can't believe you're gone, it just doesn't seem real. A few days after the wake, Noah wanted to see you. I said you were in heaven with God, and he said no, he wanted to see you at the home. I said no, she's not at the funeral home anymore, and he said NO, he wanted to see you in the treasure chest you were in. Only Noah would think like that, then I thought about it, and told him he was right,you were a treasure. It made it easier to think of your moving on that way. You will be so missed, I can't believe I'll never hear your voice or see your face or read your e-mails, you always put a smile on my face. It was very hard at the funeral, being in the same church that you had sat watching all my kids being Christened, and where we sat together for Grandma Cavaliere's funeral. It didn't seem right to be there for yours, I kept expecting you to be in the crowd. But I will look at this not as a loss, but that you're keeping grandma company and watching over us with her. A temporary separation is all it is, and until we meet again you will be treasured in the hearts of all of those who loved you so much.



Love always,

Tina

Virg,

Gosh, how we miss you already! Like everyone else, we are having such a hard time knowing we will not see your wonderful smile, hearing your contagious laughter, and not feeling better having you near us. However, the five years we have known you have been special. We were looking forward to spending more time with you. We console ourselves by knowing you will not be going having any pain.

Virg, you were an angel on earth; God must have needed another in Heaven. We are aunt and uncle of your son-in-law, Jim. We feel honored and privileged when you, Tom and your family opened up your home to us, enjoying your wonderful hospitality.

You have always been so concerned of others, always found time to call about someone else who was ill. We will never forget the time you brought Mom a milk shake in the hospital. She wouldn't eat for us, but did for you! That was the time you were coming in as I was going out the revolving door! How much fun we had together! You brought joy to anyone who crossed your path. The world is a better place for having you here.

May you rest in eternal peace. We pay for your family's strength. You left a wonderful legacy.

With much love,

Rochelle and Jerry

Dearest Virg,

You surely will be missed by all,you had a way of always making people feel special.Your warm smile and contagious laugh is only one of many things we all loved about you.You were always given your time,your energy, your ear and always a shoulder to lean on.We know your family will need you as their angel for a long while.We at work will miss all your wonderful pictures and stories about your family and grandbabies you loved so much.I believe they will always remember their special Nana, because you have touched so many lives,and you will live always in the hearts of your friends and family.My heart aches so much from knowing that we will not have you here with us and how your family will miss you even more.Our prayers and blessings are with them today and always as I know you'll always be there for them.



Till we meet again Friend,

Jolynn Blume

We are so sorry for the loss of your mother. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. Stay strong!

My love goes out to the family who lost a love one, which I know she will be missed, she was a fine person. And one of the most beautiful person that I have ever met

Dear Virgie

We can't express in words what is in our hearts, and how much you will be missed by all. If God put us on earth to accomplish something, you had done more than your share.

All my love your brother

Bobby, (Karen) (Pa)

P.S. Say hi to Mom for me.

To My Dearest Baby Sister:

We have shared so many things in our lives, good and bad, but always with each other to lean on unconditionally. We spoke on the phone at least once a day to share the happenings of our daily lives, either to complain or just have someone else to get another point of view from. You will be missed more than you could ever imagine. My one consolation of losing you is to know that you are with Mom and keeping an eye on all of us. I have another crack in my heart, but I will always share the love of our children and grandchildren with never ending stories of the love you had for all of them and all the goodness you gave them and everyone else you came in contact with. Save me a seat at the table for a game of canasta.

Forever in my heart.

Jo Ann

Virginia, you brought joy and laughter to everyone around you. I love you. I miss you.

Our Prayers go out to your family,



God Bless You



The Howards

Dearest Virginia,

Thank you for being you, you have made the people around you, the people they are today. I have heard phrases since your passing like "god broke the mold when you were born" it is so true. Words can not express our greif for your family at this time. We will miss your smiling face at family gatherings and the light you bring into the room.



Love,

Michael, Amanda,

Trent, Taylor & Trevor

Dear Virginia, You were the glue to your family - love, your ex-retired UAL coworker - Nattie Watson

Auntie Virginia-You loved me and my family "unconditionally" - just like your mom did-You are such a HUGE part of my life - I didnt want you to go...but I guess that God needed you - I always knew I was ok because you said that you loved me - I know that everyone will have a story on how u touched their life - I will always love you - and u will be in my heart forever - Dear Friend , your leaving hurts too much - Remember when u had a panic attack on that DC-10 in the galley downstairs your 1st nite at ORD? Remember how u always tried to find the perfect diet-like saran wrapping yourself to lose inches right away? Remember how Jesse Culbreath used to yell at me cuz I didnt clean the cockpit as fast as you? Remember falling asleep on the back of CS-9 in the subzero weather when we worked midnites? Remember going to any ORD supervisor looking for AWOP - and then when we went to CHIRR people wud pick up our hours? I had more senority than you but you were the AWOP Queen for getting time off- You were always someone to measure oneself about - because you always knew where the deal was, the coolest place to eat, visit , shop, etc- Remember when u used to pay someone to do crafts and then you learned how to use that glue gun yourself? I cud go on and on - everywhere that I look in my house, there is something from you - but my heart has the best gift of all - YOUR LOVE - thank you Auntie Virginia ... HUGS & KISSES x o x o

MY DEAREST MOTHER-IN-LAW:

VIRGINIA WAS BEAUTIFUL BOTH INSIDE AND OUT SHE WAS A GIVING,THOUGHTFUL PERSON WHO CARRIED HERSELF WITH POSE AND GRACE. NEVER STOOD STILL AS SHE WAS EITHER WORKING,COOKING, CRAFTING OR SHOPPING. TAKING CARE OF HER FAMILY WAS ALWAYS HER TOP PRIORITY. I WAS VERY LUCKY TO MARRY INTO SUCH A WONDERFUL FAMILY AND LUCKY TO HAVE YOU FOR MY MOTHER-IN-LAW. SAM,MYSELF AND NICKY WILL ALWAYS HAVE A PLACE FOR YOU IN OUR HEARTS AND WILL MISS YOU TERRIBLY.

My Dearest Virg,



I will thank God everyday for giving me the opportunity of having you touch my life. Your thoughtfulness and kindness will live on forever. You truely will be missed at work,but never forgotten.



Love, Debbie Nied

I did not know Virginia very well but I did know of her loving, generous, kind, giving heart. I know she will be deeply missed. It's sad that her grandchildren are all very young and will miss growing up with their other "Nana".

Dearest Virginia,



We cannot express the grief we feel. Your presence here on earth will be sorely missed, but we rest assured knowing that you will look down on everyone and still keep all "your ducks in a row". We have been blessed being a small part of your life. We will miss you.



Love, Pat & Chuck

Virginia, there will always be a special spot in our hearts for you. God will watch over your family like you watched over Mark as his BEST "Babysitter". We love you and will miss you. Bobby and Rosemary

Dear Virginia,

There are few times in life when we are given the privilege of meeting someone who is very special. Virginia, you are one of those very special people. It was a privilege knowing you and working with you. You will be missed tremendously.

Fondly,

Mari Ann Bruckner

My sister, my dearest friend, words can't express how much we will miss you. You have left a huge hole in our hearts. Things will never be the same without you. Love Forever, Judy and Larry

Virginia was wonderful. She will be greatly missed. Every day at the office she offered her frienship and greeted you with hello and a smile. My condolences and prayers to her family.

Nana,

I love you to much. You will always be in my heart. I will always remember the things we did together like when you took me shopping for my body glitter.

xoxoxox

Luv

Alexia