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Patricia DeMuro Obituary

DeMuro, Patricia and Lou Jan. 17, 1926 - June 28, 2010 Sept. 16, 1925 - June 28, 2010 They moved to Roselle in 1968, and lived in the same house on East Bryn Mawr for 42 years. Patricia and Lou DeMuro, who enjoyed a fond companionship for each other during their 62 years of marriage, relocated to San Diego from their native Chicago to spend more time with their only daughter, Jan Griffin of San Diego. Their close relationship in life was evident in death, as both passed away on the same day, Monday, June 28, within about five hours of each other, in two different locations in San Diego. They were both 84. Neither wanted to live without the other. On the day before they both passed, their daughter arranged for an ambulance to bring Dad from the retirement home to the hospital to say good-bye to Mom. Lying in the gurney, Dad was wheeled next to Mom's hospital bed so they could look at each other and hold hands. During their visit, Dad didn't say much, but Mom removed the breathing ventilator mask momentarily to say, "I love you, so long, I'll see you in another place." Then, Dad returned to the retirement home, but he didn't sleep that night and he refused to eat. The next day, at the same hour when Mom passed, Dad's breathing changed visibly, weaker and irregular. Five hours later, before the sun set that day, both Dad and Mom were together again, this time in Heaven. The legacy of Grandma and Grandpa is a remarkable story of their love for each other and God's timing and grace. Mr. DeMuro retired as a machinist for a manufacturing company, and Mrs. DeMuro worked as a secretary in the telecommunications industry. They are survived by their three children, Jan Griffin of San Diego, sons Lou DeMuro of Oak Park, IL, and David DeMuro of San Jose, Calif., and five grandchildren, Andrew and Candace Griffin of San Diego, Kevin DeMuro of Atlanta and Kimmy Kowren of Ithaca, N.Y. Patricia is survived by sister Mary Messina of Bloomingdale, and brothers Joseph Assise of Roselle, and Rocky Assise of Crest Hill. She was preceded in death by a brother, Frank Assise of Chicago. Lou is survived by a sister Rose Belizzi of Seal Beach, Calif. He was preceded in death by two sisters, Louise Vlamis of Schaumburg, and Lena Dalbis of Elmwood Park. A single Celebration of Life service for both Grandpa and Grandma is planned for this fall at Our Lady of Sorrows in Hillside.

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Published by Chicago Sun-Times on Jul. 11, 2010.

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Mary Vlamis-Ballowe

July 22, 2010

Hi Jan, Lou and David
Chris called and told me about Aunt Pat and Uncle Louie, I am so sorry for your loss. Bringing them together as you did was a wonderful end to their story. The two obituaries I have read are beautiful. They were a very special couple and I know you miss them terribly. We did have some good times when we got together for picnics or birthday parties. My prayers are with you and your families. With Loving Care your cousin Mary (Vlamis) Ballowe

With love for all.

Thomas Perry

July 22, 2010

Such a loving couple is surely together again in a much better place. Mr.Thomas Lee Perry Jr.

July 20, 2010

Lou,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
-Marilyn LaPaglia

Pam Assise - Guetschow

July 19, 2010

Jan, Lou & David,
I just found out about your loss. Words cannot express how sorry I am. I have some wonderful memories of growing up with all of you and all the Aunts & Uncles. As far back as I can remember Aunt Pat & Uncle Lou were always so in love with each other. I was very sad to hear of their passing but was happy to hear that they are & always will be together. A true story of soul mates.
Pam & Ken Guetschow

Karen Herman DeMuro

July 18, 2010

From the Oak Park family of Lou DeMuro, thank you to everyone sharing their stories and sending their sympathy. Their passing together has lessened our grief, knowing they are together still.

Happy Together

Dave Seipp

July 17, 2010

Maggie Garcia

July 16, 2010

Oh my...I am sobbing in my lunch! What a beautiful story. Your family is one of the fortunate to have had such wonderful parents. I hope your parents get to meet my parents in heaven. They too were a special couple and exceptional parents. It's a very difficult time right now my dear, but the beautiful memories and love they have for you help us to cope. Much love and respect for you and your family.

Richard Sass

July 16, 2010

Rick And Jan, my family owned Roselle Travel. We had the distinct honor to consider them friends as well as clients. It was not hard to see the love they shared. We are sorry to hear for your loss.

Richard Christine and Ronald Sass

July 16, 2010

Wow! I read your folks' story during my lunch hour and almost started crying...those could be my folks, raising our family in a 2-flat in St. Angela's parish. It's a wonderful Chicago story and deserves the special attention it received. micki leahy

Simeon Rodgers

July 14, 2010

My condolences for your loss, and my encouragement for your days ahead. This is a beautiful story, thank you for sharing your experience with us. God is awesome, and just as He held them, He will hold you and yours. Be encouraged!

Sandy Gullans

July 13, 2010

Sorry for your loss - both at once is a blow. What a love story they lived. Sandy Hotchkiss Gullans

Martha Barrett

July 13, 2010

What an amazing gift, for them to be together in death as they were in life. True love has no boundaries. May God strengthen you and yours during this time of loss.

Nicole Pearson

July 13, 2010

Rick and Jan,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. What an amazing love story your parents shared. May you be comforted by the knowledge they are together in Heaven.

Kathy

July 13, 2010

I read your parent's beautiful obituary on Sunday morning with tears in my eyes. How wonderful to know that your parents had such love for one another. Although I didn't know them, your telling of their final hours and the powerful love they had for each other provided a most touching obituary. I consider myself a spiritual person and believe this is an example of the power of the human spirit. May their souls rest in peace and their love comfort you in your loss.

July 12, 2010

What a beautiful love story. I wish I would have had the pleasure of meeting your parents. My parents are 87 and 85. I hope they pass at the same time too. I can not imagine them existing with out each other. My deep condolences and sympathy. Hope you and your family are O. K. Even though I do not know you, Please know that the story of your parents' life has touched me. Your thoughtful obituary was one of the most touching that I have ever read.

July 12, 2010

Jan, Rick and family. I'm sorry that I didn't get to know the senior DeMuros. I am priveleged, however, to know their daughter and her husband and children. I know you are burdened with grief right now, and that you will always miss them terribly. I also know of your trust in God and that He is your greatest source of comfort and strength. You also know that you can count on me any time I can be of help. You continue regularly in my prayers. Your friend, Darrel Davis

Mike C

July 12, 2010

I do not know the DeMuros, however, I found the story touching and powerful. I am sorry for your loss, but am so happy that Lou and Pat are together in heaven and did not have to be apart for long. Thank you so much for sharing this.

Larissa Roman

July 12, 2010

Beautiful. A testament to their love.

To a new adventure in Heaven

Margie Varner

July 12, 2010

What a wonderful love story. The real thing! How blessed they were to have each other for so long...

Margie , San Diego

Peg McLaughlin

July 11, 2010

I didn't know Lou and Pat but as a native La Mesan, I wanted to send my heart out to your family. I lost both my parents at Grossmont Hospital and have used the facility many times. Mostly I wanted to thank you for sharing the story with all of us readers as many simply report the death. I appreciate their love and thank you for sharing..

Suzanne Hauser

July 11, 2010

My mother lives at the retirement home (Waterford Terrace), and she told me of this story, of both of them passing within hours of each other...what a true love story. I am sorry for your double loss, but think it is a blessing they will not have to live without one another...heaven has a new couple.

Belia Campos-Heiting

July 11, 2010

I am so sorry for your loss...The Blessing you have received is that one did not have to be here without the other. My Maternal Grandparents, married 67 1/2 years, both passed away on April 4, 2008, 20 minutes apart, 1 mile apart, both of natural causes. The only thing that has kept our Families going is in knowing the fact having one here without the other would have been more painful to the surviving spouse as opposed to us now. My heart & prayers go out to your Families. God Bless!!

Julie

July 11, 2010

Dear DeMurro Family:

May the love that they shared carry you through the pain of losing both of them. Their story is beautiful and serves to remind us all about the strength of love and the bond of true friendship.

Take care of your hearts.... and know you have angels there to help you.

July 11, 2010

We don't see much of this depth of LOVE in marriages today. Find comfort in these words. "Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not gaze about, for I am your God. I will fortify you. I will really help you. I will really keep fast hold of you with my right hand of righteousness." Isaiah 41:10 San Diego,CA.

July 11, 2010

What a Beautiful Story and Tribute to your parents. They were true soul mates. Take comfort in their un-dying love for each other and that neither one of them will have to grieve. Our heats go out to you and your family, God Bless!

Karrie Aldrich

July 11, 2010

my heart aches,&my thoughts & prayers are with your family at this time..But I also want you to know,that the story you've told of the incredible love between your parents made me start to believe in love all over again-even while it made me cry. I can only hope to someday find someone who will love me that much-or that I will love at the same time. How incredibly fortunate,&rich their lives must've been to know that kind of love.It's the kind that most people spend their whole lives looking for..but never find. Your parents were rich in a way even the most wealthy people on earth could never be,and I hope they passed that love on to all who come after them..It's a lasting legacy few will ever know...and though I'm sad for your loss-I also envy you..for I will likely never know,or have the most important thing any human could ever have-true,and lasting love. Never,ever forget what you are so lucky to have experienced up close..celebrate the lives,and love of two very special and big-hearted people..and know that you are the legacy of that love. They will always be watching over you..and always loving each other.. Sincerely, Karrie Aldrich, Lakeside,CA

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