Jane Cuthbert Obituary

It's been one year and I still miss her like crazy. She will never be forgotten.

Mrs. Cuthbert, Mark, and family,



I am so very sorry about your loss. Although I did not know Jane, I was saddened by her loss as a fellow human being and heartbroken to find out she is Mark's sister. From what I have read about her, she seemed to be an exceptional and interesting person. Mark, I hope that your sister continues to inspire you and you remain strong at such a trying time in your life. With heartfelt condolences,

I just wanted to tell all of you how sorry I am for your loss. I was near your daughter the day of the accident. I will never forget Jane and your family will always be in my thoughts. Again I am so sorry.

Mrs. Cuthbert and Mark,

We were heartbroken to find out that this tragedy had befallen your family. We know that the pain and immediacy of Jane's loss will never leave you - please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.



-James Mestichelli and Will McKinstry

This eulogy was given September 23, 2005, at Jane’s gravesite, by her brother Mark Cuthbert.





Psalm of David

Chapter 13



How long, LORD, will you utterly forget me? How long will you hide your face from me?



How long must I carry sorrow in my soul, grief in my heart, day after day? How long will my enemy triumph over me?



Look upon me; answer me, LORD, my God! Give light to my eyes lest I sleep in death,



Lest my enemy say, "I have prevailed," lest my foes rejoice at my downfall.



I trust in your faithfulness. Grant my heart joy in your help, that I may sing of the LORD, "How good our God has been to me!"







And so we, Jane’s friends and family, as King David did, rage against God. We raise our red and puffy eyes to the sky, fall to our knees and cry “How long, Lord?”



For we cannot wait for your resurrection. We cannot wait for the divine justice. We can no longer wait for that which was promised. How long, Lord?



The years that spread before us are long and hard. I look down on them and I am cold, cold to my core. We are the forgotten ones, the forsaken.



Jane is wrapped in the light and love of Him. Jane now sings with the chorus of angels. But not us. How long, Lord?



I have seen some of this world. And much of it is evil and ugly - too much to have taken one so good and beautiful. All of this falls into some divine plan that I cannot understand. There will be an answer, on the last day, there will be an answer. But not now. How long, Lord?



I am exhausted. My rage is spent. The only warmth, the only answer comes from above. And like David, I become resolved. I trust in His faithfulness. But I am not David. I cannot now sing, “How good our God has been to me”.

This eulogy was given September 23, 2005, at Jane's graveside, by Jim Cuthbert, Jane's uncle.







When I think of Jane, I will always remember that Janer's smile. How she would energize the room when she entered. The day always seemed to become more fun when Jane was around.



I am really going to miss those fun days. Especially at our cottage in Michigan, when she would bring a bunch of her friends over for a day of tubing and skiing.



During my brother Mark's eulogy, I mentioned that Mark and Jane were the jewels of his life. I guess my brother must be must be making a crown in heaven and he needed a jewel. Mark and Jane are together now, in each other's arms, and we all must take comfort in that thought.



Jane, I really want to thank you for being our niece.

I want to thank you for being my God-child.

I want to thank you for being the flower girl at our wedding.

I want to thank you for being such a fun cousin to our kids.

I want to thank you for being such a caring granddaughter to my parents.

I want to thank you for being a loving sister to Mark.

I want to thank you for being Daddy's little girl to my brother Mark.

I want to thank you for being such a kind and gentle daughter and best friend to your Mom.

I want to thank you for being such a thoughtful human being.

I want to thank you for recently telling your mother that when you got married, you wanted me to walk you down the aisle.



Jane Eileen Cuthbert, I love you, and thank you.

This eulogy was given September 23, 2005, at Jane's graveside, by David Cuthbert, Jane's cousin.





I grew up over 2,000 miles and nine years apart from Jane, so we didn't have many chances to meet early on in our lives.



The first time I saw her was in a picture -- she must have been two or three at the time -- a candid shot of her as the flower girl in Jim and Judi's wedding. I asked my father who that was.



"That's Jane," he replied. I had a puzzled look on my face, which he took to mean I didn't know who Jane was: "Your cousin, Jane. You know, your cousin Mark's sister."



However, I wasn't puzzled as to who she was -- it was that I could be related to someone so beautiful.



In the last few years, the difference in age and distance became less significant. I got to see Jane up in Michigan a few times -- I can still taste those mouthfuls of lake water from when we'd go inner tubing side-by-side, bumping into each other as we were subjected to "The Whip" and "The Drunken Uncle."



I also got a chance to see her in Monterey, as we strolled down Cannery Row and she shared some insights into the family secrets that I had missed out on.



She taught me a bit about how to enjoy life.



Jane not only comforted us during our times of trial - she allowed us to comfort her. The day after her father, Mark, passed away, a bunch of us decided to do something silly and visited one of his favorite taverns. We were having a fun time when a song - I don't exactly remember what it was - came on that affected Jane. I followed her outside to find her crying, tears and rain mixing together.



We started talking about various memories and eventually got to how we both missed being able to grow up together. To try to make up for this lost time, Jane suggested we get our kids to grow up together - something I was looking forward to, which I will desperately miss.



Jane was more than a cousin to me. She was a dear friend and "sister," not just to me, but many of you here.



Jane, I love you, and will forever miss you.

This eulogy was given September 23, 2005, at Jane's graveside, by Courtney Grillot, a friend of Jane's from Monterey.









There is a story told of two men, one old, one young. One day, the young man was showing people how absolutely beautiful and perfect his heart was. And it was as beautiful and perfect as the day he was born.



When the old man happened by this young one, he shook his head. “Oh, young one, you believe your heart is perfect, but have you loved? Have you been loved?”



As the young man contemplated this, the old man removed his own heart to show those who were gathered. His heart was gnarly. There were huge chunks missing, pieces sewn in haphazardly, little pieces/big pieces all together in one big lump of a heart.



“You see, young man, all of the pieces that are missing are pieces that I gave to people when I loved them. The bigger the piece, the bigger the love.”



“The same goes for the pieces sown in; those are from people who have loved me.”



“Thus, my heart is greater than yours, because I have loved.”



The young man fell to his feet, tearing a chunk from his heart, pleading with the old man to take it. The old man took a chunk from his own heart to give the boy. Thus, a friendship was born.







Jane captured many of our hearts when we first met her. In Monterey, she was one of the few people I got close to. I tell you this story because by being here, we have all torn chunks of our heart to give to Jane. And Jane gave each of us, in turn, a part of her own heart.



I know for a fact that everyone will cherish that part of Jane that they have . . . and grow to love more from the love she gave us.



We are all standing inside a fire right now. But in the words of a song I shared with Jane: “Life is not tried; it’s just merely survived, if standing outside the fire.”



Jane, my friend, I miss you, I love you. Thank you for the gift of your friendship.

This eulogy was given September 23, 2005, at Jane's graveside, by Joan Martinez Kiser, a long time friend of Jean's.





Words seem so inadequate and futile after this unimaginable tragedy. We feel helpless.



I’ve read that whatever you are when you are young, that as you age, you become more so.



It’s difficult to imagine a more beautiful spirit. We’d always say that Jane was “an old soul”. Her insight, her courage . . . she was wise beyond her 22 years.



When I think of Jane, I think of her smile and her singing. Most of us sing when we are happy or to quiet and soothe ourselves. Jane’s singing showed others that she was a happy, joyful and caring person.



Educators believe that what we sing, we remember forever. Hearing Jane sing is what I will remember forever.



The last time I saw Jane was 4 weeks ago. We went out to breakfast, just the two of us. She was happy and optimistic. We talked about Mark leaving for Iraq and how she and her mom were coping.



She had such a peace and acceptance about her---as if she knew she would always be OK and that her mom and brother would be OK.



Jean, I hope you will always remember what a loving, caring mom you were. You did everything possible for her. I saw the love and support you gave. Life is fragile. No one could have done more to protect her.



Jane, if love alone could have spared you, you never would have died.



Jane: forever beautiful and forever young.

We at Nine West would like to give our deepest sympathy to the family of Jane Cuthbert.Our prayers are always with you. We worked with Jane when she was staying in monterey and like her a lot she's a very happy person and we will surely gonna miss her. Godbless!

Jane worked with us while she lived in Monterey and we enjoyed her very much. She was such a fun and happy person and we will miss her dearly. Our prayers go out to the family.

Dear Jean and Mark,

I am so sorry to hear about Janie. I only knew her as a precious child, but I am blessed because I got to know her, and I know she blessed so many other lives.

Sincerely,

Ryan Parejko and family

To the Cuthbert and McCarthy Families, Words cannot express our deepest sympathy for your loss. Our family was dear friends of all the Cuthberts and truly loved them for the kind and genuine people that they are. We pray that in time your family finds comfort, knowing that your daughter is in the arms of our lord. Love and Prayers, The Heywood Family

Dear Jean & Markie,



My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. She will be forever in my heart. Like Kristin, I have fond memories of babysitting both Markie and Janie. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.



Love Always,

Alison Funck

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Jean, Mark & Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. As a Christian, I know that Jane is happy and with her dad. As a mother, I am heartbroken. If there is anything you need please let me know as I am here for you anytime. Jean you said it best, "there are no words." I hope that the love and support of your friends and family give you comfort. We are here for you.

Dearest Mrs. Cuthbert and Markie. My memories of Janie as a child are precious. She has always had a special place in my heart. I was lucky to be her babysitter when you lived on Newport Dr. I will send you a picture that I have of her. Love always.

Mrs. Cuthbert,



I want to say something profound that will comfort you, but I know that's impossible. There is no pain that compares to the loss of a child, regardless of age, and there are no words that makes the agony end.



Please accept my heartfelt condolences.



Carol Schneider

English I (Summer 2004)

Dear Jean & Mark

I don't really know what to say, I am so sorry, I have really been trying to make contact with you since I recieved Mark's e-mail but it would not let me respond back for some reason. I am so sorry, I would really like to make contact with you, so please if you can, get in touch with me. Take care

Jean and Family,



You are in our thoughts and prayers.



With deepest sympathies,



John, Kris and family

Kankakee College

Jean, Sending my deepest and most heartfelt sympathy. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love Beth

Dear Jane, Mark & Family:



I know this is an extremely difficult time for you right now and my thoughts, love & prayers will be with you. You have a piece of my heart to sew in yours!



All My Love!

Debbie

To all the Cuthbert's & McCarthy's

We want you to know that we are all praying for you.

Geri,Bill,Janet,John,Betsy,Jim,Lisa

Beth,Ed,Ginger,Marikay & Bill

My deepest sympathies for your loss. I was one of the several men and women that responded to that terrible accident. If there is anyway that I can be of help to you or your family in your time of grief please do not hesitate to contact me. I also know the loss of a child, We my not know Gods reasons for taking our dear loved ones so soon, But the separation is only temporary, for as Christians we can look forward to being together again in eternity. Far removed from the pain of this unfair test of faith.



Lt. Barry Garr

Chicago Fire Dept.

Engine Co. 50

Jean and Mark,



My thoughts and prayers are with you this week. I hope you are finding some comfort with your family and friends.



Randy

Jean-



My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this tragic time. I have many memories of Janie as a child. Words can not express the sadness i feel in my heart.

Jean & Mark,



My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. Our entire family sends their love and support especially my parents. If there is anything you need or that we can do please do not hesitate to get in touch. You are all in our thoughts.

Jean and Family,

Nothing I can say can really describe how deeply I feel for you. You are in my prayers now and forever.

Courtney

I never knew Jane, but seeing her picture and story in the newspaper makes me real proud of her prowess in earthly life. From a human point of view, it was tragic for you guys to let your beloved Jane go, but from a spiritual standpoint Jane is watching over all of you, all the riders aboard Metra right now and all of Metra's employees dedicated to safety to all its customers and communities as a guardian saint in heaven. Jane is truly a saint in the presence of the Lord. Just as Jesus died for Jane and for all of us, Jane had to die for Jesus too, and so it will be for all of us in this life. We are just pilgrims on this earth just like Jane was, and Jane was ready for our heavenly Father to call her home to His heavenly kingdom where she resides. And so it will be for all of us as we soldier on for our Lord Jesus Christ until the time comes for Him to call us home to our true citizenship in heaven. And then you will be hapilly reunited with Jane forever.

Dearest Cuthbert Family, My heart goes out to you, and I share greatly in your sadness, and sorrow. You are all in my prayers.

Dear Jean and Mark,

My deepest sympathy on the passing of your daughter. Mark worked with Ted many many years ago in the Union and he and I both have fond memories of Mark and you. Expressing my sympathy to you and your family.

Adrienne Varvil

Jean @ Family Our Deepest Sympathy to you and rest of the family. If there is anything you need feel free to call.

Our hearts go out to the Cuthbert family on your loss.



From Bill, Tara and all the Mcandrews

Jean, Mark, & Family-

Jane will be missed greatly. She was such a good friend to me and I am blessed to have crossed paths with such a wonderful person. I will never forget all the memories we shared as toddlers up until almost our teen years. She will always be in my heart and in my prayers.

Jean & Mark,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences in this difficult time. I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear of your loss. Jane was such a sweet girl and always a good friend to all of my little sisters. My heart goes out to you both.

Jean& Mark My deepest sympathy are with you and your family. Janie was an angel who was a part of our life since she was two years old. I Will never forget her and her sweetness. I love you and I Will be there for you always. Love Jackie Diaz.

Jean, Mark, Family & Friends,

My deepest and heartfelt sympathy for your loss. You have been and will continue to be in my constant thoughts and prayers.

~My love, sympathy & support always,

Jean & Mark

My heart is so very sad for you and your family. Please know that you are in my thoughts & prayers.

Dear Jean and Family:

Please know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers. Jean, when you are ready, come back to your students. They have hugs and wonderful hearts that hold you close. (Modern World Lit. sends their love.)

Fondly and with condolences from my family to yours.

I do not know Jane or your family personally, but I want to say how truly sorry I am for your loss. I too was there that day.

Dearest Jean & Mark, My heartfelt sympathy to your whole family. I remember when she wasn't even a year and I showed her-her first xmas tree light set. We all enjoyed living nexdoor to you on Newport and have many memories. You have been through so much in the last couple of years. May God comfort you with his strength and love. Sincerely, O'Sullivan Family

Dear Jean, May you find peace in the days that lie ahead. A "mothers love" lives forever.

Love, June Collins(McCarthy))

Jane was such a beautiful person. I am glad I had the chance to know her so well and share so many wonderful memories with her. Jane will be missed greatly. I can't image what you are going through, but my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jean & Mark~

My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear Jane. I have very fond memories of that beautiful little girl with a big smile that lit up Newport Drive. May God give you peace during this tragic time. You are in my prayers.

Jean and Mark-



Jane was a close and dear friend of mine for the last 8 years. I couldn't have asked for a better friend. She always knew how to make me laugh, and was always inspiring me to do more. She was taken too soon, and she will be greatly missed by me, and my family. I send my deepest sympathy and condolences. Please know that our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

I didn't know the family, but my deepest sorrows and sympathies go out to them...Jane was a dear friend of mine and will be greatly missed. Words can't describe her and how great of a person she was.

Jean & Mark,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the rest of your family durring these hard times. Jane with be greatly missed! She was a great friend and I will always carry the memories with me that we have shared together!

Dear Family of Jane,



I saw what happened to your loved one on television. I am a total stranger, but please accept my condolences.

No words could ever possibly convey the great sadness we feel for you and your family. Please know that we send you the energy of love and strength, that it may help you even in the slightest way. We will keep all of you in our hearts and prayers.

Though I don't know the family personally, I just want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am very sorry for your tragic loss.

Jean- My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. Jane had a big heart and was such a wonderful person. She will be missed greatly.

Jean, Mark & Family,



Our deepest sympathy to you and the rest of the family. If there is anything at all you need, feel free to call.

Jean & Family, I don't personally know You but, I feel greatly sadden for your lost. You and Your family are in my prayers. May Your daughters sweet momories be in Your heart forever. Love, a caring neighbor in Orland Park. Diane xo

Jean and Family,

My thoughts & prayers go out to your family during this difficult time.

Mary Beth Walsh (Tommy More).

JIM:

Our deepest symtathy in this tragic time to you & your family.

Jill & Cliff Chellew

Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.