Eleanore Dziekan Obituary

Boy I can't tell you how well my life has been going since grandma went to heaven. I KNOW she is keeping on eye on me. May 31, the radio on my car started working after fiddling with the battery - it has been broken since March 4 - didn't know why. Jordans modeling career seemed to be on hold. May 31, I got a phone call from a modeling agency to set up an appointment and anyday now she will be on the website. With all of the problems I have had at work with my coworkers, things seem to be turning around in my favor. Our financial situation has been looking better since May 30. I find that I am appreciating life more and I am finding that it is important that you have to look out for yourself cause no one else will. And how important it is to watch Jordan grow up (as Eleanore did watching all of the kids) and appreciate the things she does. And to live day by day and enjoy your life and do things to make yourself happy cause you can go to heaven at any time. And don't let people get to you cause there is always going to be someone who has a problem with you. Going to heaven scares me sometimes. But I hope that I am as lucky as grandma cause she got to experience a lot. But I am missing her so much, but she is doing much better for me now that she is up in heaven cause she can help us all guide our lives in the right direction if we fall off track. We will be thinking of her when we run around the cemetary in Michigan in August. Maybe she will knock over a few headstones for us, maybe she will get the cops to pull over. Maybe she will have something scarey happen to us when we do our saonce?!! Remember her making that video for us about her past!!! Bye Grandma - Take Care of Us!!!

Though Mom has died, she has left her family with the very real gift of herself.



Each family member is a "living" part of Mom in reality as Eleanore (Mom) was Mom, Sister, Grandmother, Great Grandmother, Aunt, Cousin.



Each friend, neighbor and acquaintance remembers Eleanore in their lives.



Today's memories of Eleanore (Mom) are real as they are recollected with emotions of joy -- inspiration -- love -- sorrow -- warmth.



Though Eleanore (Mom) was Yesterday, she is Tomorrow's wife and daughter.



P. S. There are many memories of Mom since 1942 in September, when I was first introduced to Mom at Holy Cross Hospital in Chicago. Can't recall much of those early days. Do remember childhood-egg-lunches while dressed in pre-nap undershirt attire; 1940's radio ballads were a constant. (Today's lyrical knowledge of the Big Bands are attributed to my childhood bugalow lifestyle of the 40's.)

A wonderful memory of Mom, which at the time came complete with facial expression even though it occured over the phone, was:

"Hi, Mom, what's up?"

"I'm cooking."

"Cooking! (I was used to hear-ing that she was watching tv, or napping, etc.)

"Yes, I don't like to cook everyday, but when I feel like it, I just HAVE TO COOK, so I'm making soup for everyone!"



And the very last memory I had of Mom occured as I was leaving the restaurant after the funeral luncheon. The funeral morning had been rainy, as bad occasions usually are, but as I walked out of the restaurant, I was overwhelmed by sunshine and warmth! I was being soothed in my after-funeral distress by my deceased Mother! When I was three-years old, my Dad and I brought Mom home from the hospital after she had lost a still-born baby boy. It was a very distressing occasion. With child-like wisdom, I soothed Mom by telling her not to cry and that "tomorrow when the sun comes out", everything will be alright and you'll have another baby. Well, it did and she did.

Mom never forgot what I had said as a child and we would remark on it, and the sun, many times in our conversations.

So, after the funeral luncheon, "when the sun came out" I knew that I was gently being reminded that everything was alright.

I can't beleive I am responding to an obituary column for my mother. I knew some day I would be experiencing this moment, but I guess that I thought it would not come this soon. Although she lived 83 years, I feel very grateful for all that time I had with her, is it ever really enough time? As I look back I realize just how fast those years went. Life is short. And it seems as we are living it we don't really appreciate it until those moments are over. There is one thing I know for sure. God put Grandma on this earth for special reasons, and each one of us knows exactly what that is. She had a special relationship with each one of us and taught us very valuable lessons and had a very positive outlook on life. Her fine example of a woman who never gave up, even though it seemed very hopeless for her. Her faith in God kept her going. I know all of you have very special memories of Grandma (Mom) but if you really want her spirit to live on just remember and follow all that she has taught you in her life. That would be the greatest memory of all.

I am missing you, Grandma! I remember all the fun times we shared with you. Every year we visit Sister Lakes, we will still walk through the cemetary and hide from cars and cops driving by. You have taught us to think every sad moment to have a great outcome. You were there for every event that I had in school and you were always there for me. You loved us so much and we all love you. There are countless memories that we all will be talking about for the rest of our lives. You made us become so grateful for everything we have from stories that you told from you growing up as a child. I will think of you always and miss you through all of the holidays. Thank you for being there for me!!

I am so greatful for having had Grandma in my life. Technically I am a grandchild by marriage -- but both she and Grandpa always treated as a natural part of the family. Words can not express what that means to me now, and what it meant to a little girl 26 years ago.



She is one of the most caring, funny and interesting people I have ever known. I really cherished my most recent time with her and loved sharing stories and experiences with her. I love her and will miss her tremendously.

Jenny

Dearest Kris and family,

God bless you all, may He give you the strength to make it through this so very difficult time of sadness. May He ease your pain and fill your hearts with peace and love, and joyful memories.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

love, Shell

My Grandma was always there for me. She came to everything and even when she couldn't I knew that she wanted to. She loved her family so much. We all loved her too and we are all going to miss her.

It's so hard to begin because the fact is, my Mom was a major part of my life from the day I was born until the day she died; it is overwhelming to choose a few little memories here and there.



Right now I have the same feeling I had the day I was dropped off at Kindergarten - I sat in the corner and cried until she came back for me. Now I am trying to come to the realization that she won't be coming back. No matter how old we become, we thrive on that unconditional love, never-ending interest and joy in our lives that our Mother brings us.



I will always treasure the little things most. She always was so interested in my day to day life and that of my family.



She never demanded anything and gave to us unselfishly. She was always there for my kids; spending the night with us to help when they were newborns, babysitting every Sunday so we could go out to dinner. She loved spending the day at the mall with me just pushing the stroller and buying little things for the kids.



I had a wonderful childhood with vacations at the lake, joyful holiday celebrations, strong family ties and meaningful family traditions which I have carried on to this day with my own family.



My Mom was a very giving person and many people loved her. She was always very sweet to everyone and rarely complained even though she suffered so much in her final years. I am consoled knowing that she is at peace and with God, but I will never stop missing both her and my Dad until the day I die.

Dear Mom,



I will miss all of the happy times we spent together. Renting cottages at Sister Lakes, getting a Rainbow cone on a warm, summer night, shopping at the mall, taking you to bingo followed by pie at Bakers Square. I'll miss the wonderful smell of a home-cooked meal when entering your house after you have invited me over for dinner, surprising you with a rented movie or two from Blockbuster.



There are many wonderful and cherished memories, mom. You have been a wonderful mom and have raised a great family.



I will always miss you and love you. Especially the times when I need your advice with a problem. Sharing your wisdom and experiences of life.



Thank you for the love you have given me for 39 years. Thank you for being the best mom there could ever be.



Love,



Karen

What a great and kind grandma she was. I remember her walking down 107th Street on July 4 with a bag of fireworks as an Oak Lawn cop drove by. I remember watching Love Boat with her on Saturday nights when she came over to babysit while I ate my cheetos. I remember her drawing & cutting out Snow White & the Seven Dwarves. I remember her coming to all my plays & awards ceremonies. I remember going Trick-or-Treating to her house every Halloween. I am going to miss her fun nature. I am going to miss spending the night at her house and staying up late watching scarey movies.